Veresae wrote:
How do you know when you're asking for too much?
You all know I have my whole dream girl thing...I've written about it a lot here...but I don't NEED someone exactly like her...I'd settle for someone so much less perfect...but there just are so few people I find remotely attractive.
I think the best place to hit, ie. people you can open yourself to having some sort of attraction with, needs to be at least at maybe 10% of whats out there. I say that because for one you usually don't want your spitting image identical, it would be profoundly boring. The other thing being that a lot of women will surprise you, as in you could just as easily meet a girl wearing a slightly off designer brand, looking like just anyone else, who could blow your mind if she opened her mouth at the right time and showed what she had upstairs (and yeah, there's a lot of those out there).
That's kind of the reason why, while I do have to go with what I can feel attraction to, mostly over the reasons Leo was mentioning, that's kind of how I've been able to get my head around some of this. Also realizing what a nasty and messed up world this is, that if your not with someone who's cheating or abusing, initiating fights, controlling, and things don't end up in divorce - as long as things are happy your already doing way better than most people. As for that perfect sort of love and share of energy, who's able to find that or not find that is really a roll of the dice and kind of predetermined just on location and timing; ie. its an extreme few and I don't think having a greater want for it brings it to you, if anything sometimes I think its just the opposite.