Pretending to be happy?

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Apparently a lot of people do this? Is it our responcibility to act cheerful to create a better atomosphere in the world?
Personally, I'm trying to find a more optimistic approach, stop beating myself up over things. I've been emo about things before, and in a way, making something of a drama of darkened days made them strangely...fulfilling. If I don't do that it's just empty.

yeah Mid, I have the feeling like other people think I should smile all the time, and be happy, and I'm not really all that positive so it's hard,

peoples do that cos they feel that they do not want to depress the peeps around them. i don't see the point in being fake.

hope you feel better

Thanks.
Being happy will in general make people like you more.

I've been pretending to be happy, since January 2nd.

The best i can do is pretend to be neutral.

I've learned that when I pretend to be happy, I'm still not, and that I'd rather just be myself.

Yeah, I'm not helping the topic any.

I don't do this. But I do fake smile at people who I say hi to.

Sure...a lot of people pretend to be happy. One of the reasons IS to create a better atmosphere in the world. [not the gases that protect us from space-junk type of atmosphere]. I mean, can you imagine what a world full of depressives would be like?...Nothing would get done!

I find that pretending to be something that i'm not, whether it's happy or any other thing, makes me feel worse. The only way that I can be happy, is to act how I want to in the moment.

Yeah, I do this all the time around friends, and at school.

When I come home, with no-one outside of my family + relatives etc. that are around.

I just crash and let my genuine sadness flow.

It builds up during the day, and this can lead to nearly crying in the middle of a school day.

I do pretend to be happy quite often. It's just a routine I got into, but it does have a positive effect on people around me, so if they become happier, then it's a more positive environment.
I don't really consider it faking (unless I'm really depressed), it's more like saying, "I want to be happy, so this is the first step". It usually works.

i'm kind of prone to being depressed every once in a while, it usually goes away rather quickly but there have been three periods when i was genuinely depressed for a long time.

starting in grade 7 i was really depressed so i pretended to be happy to look normal so that i wouldn't stand out, and i didn't want to get help because i wanted to do it on my own. i eventually got help and meds and it cleared up in a few months (a change of school also helped alot). then last semester i was really stressed and it was really wearing on me. i eventually started getting depressed and shut down a bit, but when i was around other people it was like nothing was wrong in the world. i just don't like to stand out alot so i do what's necessary to avoid attention.

"She's a wonderful person, she's always happy"
"He's so wonderful to work with, he's always with a smile on his face"

A better atmosphere is created by being kind to each other, not by having a fake smiles fest. All the pressure to smile and pretend to be happy is just one more way to keep the sheep manageable. Don't show each other how unhappy you are, lest you all unite and do something about it - causing us, the powers that be, trouble in our blissful wealth.

I despise the "be positive" era with a vengeance.

Yeah, ìt is really annoying when people tell you to smile. I hate smiling, it seems unnatural and I have ugly teeth, so I never do. But acting happy is different than smiling, it`s more about joking around in a lighthearted manner. I often talk in a pompous way or use TV quotes or funny accents to lighten the atmosphere, it works quite well. The good thing is, I`m an awkward talker to begin with, so this way I can kind of laugh at myself instead of trying to sound friendly by using a `nice` voice. It`s hard to sound nice when you have a monotone voice.

my two friends can tell when im pretending but in general most of the outside world doesnt seem to care if im pretending to be happy or not .or is it just me that hasnt noticed or doesnt care what the outside world think and im just assuming again because its safer.but i must care or i would not be pretending to be happy in the first place the worlds crazy