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Hi, I'm new to this forum. Anyway, I guess I'll tell a little about myself...I'm 29, live in the Boston area, and as you probably would guess, have Asperger's syndrome. I think that I have accomplished quite a bit for someone with AS...I have a master's degree, have a relatively decent paying job, and am very independent with somewhat of a social network. However, on the flip side, I am very disappointed as well. I was only in one relationship in my life, but it only lasted a little over three months (basically, my ex told me that she cannot emotionally handle me and my ways; it ended about four months ago). My current job is very mundane and provides no challenge. I am still having difficulties with small talk and communicating (although they have been improving), and I just find it very frustrating that even though I continuously am able to get first dates, outside that one relationship, I have never been able to get a second date. I know my situation is not as bad as those as others with AS...I'm not denying that. However, it is disheartening to me that I am so close to "normalcy", yet cannot seem to get over the hump. Hopefully this message board can help me out, so I'm looking forward to continuing to post!

first of all hi! i have the same social problems, i have a lot of neurotypical friends, but i still feel alone. dating has been rough too because of the unattractive mannerims etc that aspergers brings out. in fact right now i feel i am ruining potentially having a girlfriend because i cant fake being normal very well. anyway welcome to the forum im new here too and hope to make some friends i can actually relate to

Hi HurrMark55

welcome to WP.

I don't think that anything can make you "normal". You are who you are and cannot change that. Of course, it is possible to improve your social skills to appear more "normal". Have you ever considered social skills training? I suppose that is one way to improve and get over the "hump" as you mentioned thats something you would like to do. Like everything, though, it doesn't work for everyone. You never know, this forum might be all you need to give you a "little push to the other side".

Anyway, I hope you enjoy posting here.

Welcome

Hi and welcome to the aspie community...

Welcome,

You should contact the username nutdan, who is in Boston, and knows things. He was building a support network last I heard. He is well worth talking to.

Welcome to WrongPlanet!

Nice to meet you, HurrMark55.

Welcome to WP!! !

I understand your problem because it is very similar to me. However, I have yet to figure out how to get over the "hump".

Welcome

Welcome to WP.