The Confidence Myth

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That is a very dangerous lie, if you believe it. It directly implies and recommends lack of taking personal responsibility for oneself. The idea that others have been denying you your happiness, and that you therefore need them to allow you to be happy. That is complete and total hashish!

If you phychosomatically hand others the keys to your happiness -- if you convince yourself that that's the way it works -- you've given others the power to decide whether you're going to be miserable or not! You are actually becoming their emotional slave of your own free will. It's completely insane. This should be known as "The Loser's Defense."

This guy quoted sounds like the wet blanket of the century. Mr. Doom 'n Gloom. Who needs him? Practicing his ideas will make you feel better in the short run, and worse in the long run, because his ideas give you the following:
1. A sense of nobility, as the innocent one who has been wronged by others. (But who among us is innocent, and has never wronged someone else?)
2. A sense of entitlement, that others owe you your due emotional health, and are maliciously and effectively withholding it from you.
But in the end, it leaves you permanently in a sense of:
3. Powerlessness, because you've become convinced that you are a slave to others who may not even be aware of this strange concept, nor give a rat's ass.

So, plain and simply, this is the victim mentality: the emotional bondange which has kept so many people who view themselves as hopelessly underprivileged from reaching their full potentials -- which would be to shine brightly in their uniqueness in life, and likely earn the respect of others as a matter of course. Such fully-flowered potentials would bear no resemblance to the sad-sacks who are still sitting in the corners of their rooms writing, singing, and perhaps even publishing tales of personal woe all the live-long day! Good grief, Charlie Brown!