I'm so tired I could cry!

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Think my kids are monsters today and just want to sit in front of the computer and ignore them
I just literally carried my 50 kg son into his room for bad behaviour - he didn't want to go. Doubbled his time out because he hit me and his baby brother on the way in there. Had to take him back twice cause he wouldn't stay there.
If I'd been more patient to begin with, I would have dealt with the situation better.
But I just want to curl up into a ball and be left alone...
Sorry, guys, for whining.

there are always creative ways of punishment
my parents were always creative with punishments
and if you need some assistance (or just someone to vent to-listening is my forte)
let me know
I am trying to rekindle the kind part in me

I am only new on this site and no authority at all, but I have already found that shouting or punishing my son doesn't work and only builds more anger and frustration, the only thing that works for me is if I tell him I'm going out for a walk because I don't want to be with him (I know he doesn't like being in the house without me). I only go for a short walk around the block and am home in five minutes or so, but it helps calm him and me down.

"Being a brat" (ie cussing, not following common directions, name-calling, being destructive to property) gets a short time out here. "Hurting" gets the video games (computer) taken away for at least the day. It works really well. We think there is a great need to teach the distinction between being angry and acting on anger. We don't punish all cussing but the kind that is meant to offend. We don't punish for being angry but for hurting or threatening in anger.
My son is greatly impressed by mirroring too. If I mirror his snotty talk, he is surprised and learns just how rotten it sounds. Usually with name calling and threatening to hurt. this is because telling him that name calling isn't nice or hurt my feelings doesn't work. It perpetuates this insane argument that he never did what I said he did. If I just do it back, he gets it and realizes how much it hurts. I always explain what I'm doing too.

Also, is having the kids alone a change in routine? My son is the opposite, he's really good with one parent but terrible with two of us. He's always been that way. He can't handle two authority figures and the lack of structure that it brings. Have you tried writing down a schedule for Mommy days?

Thanks all!

You're right getting angry doesn't help!
He's actually usually better with one parent, too. (But then the other one does a heap of other stuff.)
The problem today was me - I was exhausted, and didn't schedule, and was not patient enough. So when his ritalin ran out, he was impulsive - kissing and kissing his 10 year old brother, who was horrified , which may not sound like a big deal, but he was asked to stop and didn't, and I had told him if he didn't stop he had to go to his room.
I just think it's so hard having to be on top of everything 24/7 365 days a year. Easter was great, but hard work. I had an early start this morning, on top of a really bad night as the 10 year old had a nightmare, the two year old woke up, and the 9 year old HFA jumped on me at 4.30, like tigger from Winnie the Pooh, wide awake and totally out of control. Proceeded to try and wake everybody else up in the same manner, with me at his heels trying to slow him down.

I'm off to bed now, didn't get all my work done this evening, which I'm worried about. I'm hoping tomorrow turns out a whole lot better!!

Waking up against your will is a huge nightmare. Lived that for way too long. I'm so glad my son is more independent with entertaining himself these days. He used to literally jump on us too, on a bed with no springs. Yes, it eventually broke. But he outgrew that around 5 when we got him the nintendo and he started watching Sat morning cartoons or PBS during the weekdays.
Now I'm training him to either make his own oatmeal or cereal or something that will fill him up before I wake on the weekends.

Hi, punishing does not help, we all know that, but we are also ALL human, I have had the day from hell with my son and feel like the worst mother on earth, no patience, shouting and I know im doing wrong, but we all have so far we can be pushed. I feel guilty posting here sometimes because everyone seems so positive, but can we all really be that positive every day when our patience is being pushed to and beyond its limit. Dont get me wrong, I love my son very much, but some days I would like to run away and never come back.

mumto2~me too

That's just what I needed to hear - made me feel better. Thank God I'm not the only one!
The problem is when you know how you're supposed to do things, but can't. If I mention a bad situation to my son's teachers, the answer is always I have to do more: structure more, do more pictograms, do another social story ect. ect. and I CAN'T. I'm exhausted.

I'm staying home today. Looking forward to the silence

[quote="katrine"]That's just what I needed to hear - made me feel better. Thank God I'm not the only one!
The problem is when you know how you're supposed to do things, but can't. If I mention a bad situation to my son's teachers, the answer is always I have to do more: structure more, do more pictograms, do another social story ect. ect. and I CAN'T. I'm exhausted.

I'm staying home today. Looking forward to the silence [/quote

Enjoy the silence

thanks.

I would be tired too. Oh, hey, I am tired.

The silence was great

Had a nap, did some long overdue cleaning, tried to get some work done...
feeling better but still in a slightly foul mood... my poor family!!

you can't get it right all the time. it's all such a strain dealing with this stuff every day. sometimes i feel like just getting in the car and driving and driving until the petrol runs out. i just want to get away from it all. i actually scare myself having these thoughts because i worry that one day i might lose my mind and do it!

Nice to have a companion in crime