Advantageous Traits of Aspies in Romantic Relationships?

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I have been thinking a thread discussing what makes people with Asperger's syndrome in general better than average in relationships might be a confidence booster for many of us here. I have characteristics that I think would be highly desirable, and I think in part they come from having Asperger's syndrome (the problem of course is they aren't the kinds of flashy things that help with first impressions).

• Loyal
• Considerate
• Romantic
• Knowledgeable
• Focused (as in can devote one's attention wholly on the person attracted to)
• Independent
• Determined

The problems I seen and had in an ASP/ASP relationship was that the first
mistake I made she never forgot, in fact worse, she focused on it so badly
she kept over looking the good things I done and exploded the mole hill into
a mountain as if I had done things a thousand times instead of just once,
She was VARY hypocritical and self righteous even though she her self was far from perfect.
Honesty, yes up until the relationship was about over, then there after she lied her ass off,
either that or she felt and believed something so strongly that she believed them true
when they was totally not true to the point of being basically unreal.
and if she did not want to be honest she never told the truth by never giving and answer,
but this is just my experience with one ASP girl,
she had many other flaws, like she gets board of the men in her life after the beginning
deluge of romantic infatuations subside, she seems to keep looking for that romance that will always feel
like it does when its new and blossoming, and she never cared to work on or recognise her own issues,
and when you worked on your own issues to improve your self and the relationship then in her mind it only
verified your imperfections to her, she never was actually supportive of anything unless it benefited her directly,
And she got board with you if your interests was not the same as hers, she thought you less smart or something,
so this new fella she got interested in had some of the same interests, give that a couple years and it will get old as well,
there would be nothing new for them to talk about.
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HONEST! That is what first attracted me to my husband. It was so refreshing to have a guy say what he meant and mean what he said!

Honesty is a bit like alcohol. If used in a controlled way it can be very good. But too much can go very wrong. I would be totally honest if I told my girlfriend about any other girl I find attractive, for instance, but I can't imagine her liking that. Loyalty is much better .

My mum once asked my dad what he was thinking during a nice romantic dinner. He responded, pizza. Not, how pretty you are, or, that dress makes you look even more beautiful. Pizza.

Mum says she married him for just that.

So, I guess honesty is a good trait. I like a guy who can be honest with me, and I know my BF has commented that even when it hurts, he really does appreciate knowing I caint lie about anything. I guess he hasn't noticed I'm one of the best liars around if need be, but that could be because I don't need to with him.

So, honesty would be the big one in my book. And Loyalty. And commitment. I really appreciate someone who spends time just talking, because they care about me, not the fact that we could have sex if he got mushy enough.

Although all these things are probably good and true about aspies, these kinds of lists never can win a mate over. Logic fails in the realm of love.

They're easy to cheat on. Just don't get caught.

Smart, tend to know the language and able to be romatic with those words, remember significant dates I doubt an Aspie will forget an aniversary or birthday.

none

Creative?

Good-looking?

Fun?

Goal oriented?

Naive?

Outgoing?

Cheerful?

Rich?


OK, I'll be a little serious um creative.

I do agree that honesty can be like alchohol. It is generally a good thing to have, but you gotta be tactful about it. Tell harsh truths in soft ways, I think.

They're easy to cheat on. Just don't get caught.