Accepting praise or compliments

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i dislike getting compliments to do with most things, maybe its cos i dont get them often lol. i feel much more comfortable with criticism, and i self criticise a lot too. when i get a complement i dont know how to take it and often appear rude or ungrateful. its not that, i just dont know how to react =(

Oh, I noticed that. With ME, perhaps I would act less arrogant if people let me do what I could, etc... Their excuse USED to be that I was "too young". NOW, it seems they look for a new profit angle, don't want ME to be "the hero", or just their stupid personal pride. I'll never forget when they asked who could program in C, for a new project. I was the ONLY one that could, but they didn't want ME to. Perhaps it was because I worked for another company, etc???

I USED to be altruistic and genorous, and today I am FAR less so. That is just because people have taken advantage of me too much, etc... I am QUICK to teach, and give praise. I am not like one of those guys on TV that is arrogant, keeps everything close to the chest, and is never polite, etc...

I don't take praise well. Someone giving me a compliment feels fake or like a setup to a cruel joke. I feel more comfortable getting criticism or derogatory remarks from people, because that is what I grew up with. I usually try to deflect or ignore a compliment.

Compliments used to make me extremely uncomfortable, but I've learned to like them. I just say, "Thank you," and try to make it sound humble in order to be polite, but I don't know what to do beyond that - like if I say "Thank you" and the person keeps complimenting me. What are you supposed to say then? "Yes, I know"?

I like compliments, but it makes me uncomfortable when I don't know how to respond to it.

I mean, of course I smile and say thanks, but I never know quite how much to do it.

It makes me uncomfortable to receive compliments or praise, and annoyed with the giver. I also have a big problem with sincerity - almost nothing seems it.

Normally when i recieve compliments i tend to insult the giver Not to be mean or anything, but i dont say thanks like many others do. If my boyfriend says im pretty for instance, ill respond with something like "moron". Thats nice

Thank you yet again! You guys here are so helpful!

I was having trouble working out Damien's reaction when I give him praise for a job well done or great behaviour.
He goes really like sheepish and shy and give me this very exaggerated aww aww aww and hides behind a teddy most times.
I think it is so cute and kinda funny.
When he gives it out like "oh Mum you did good job vacuming" or "you're a good helper Mum" he sounds so darn serious. Again it sounds really cute coming from a 5 yr old.

He repeats what I have said to praise him or give him a compliment and will quite happily say them altho not at expected or right times.

Maybe you SHOULD be locked up! That's not nice!

i can't say this is my reaction all the time, but often it is especially if the complement is on my looks.

Compliments and praise usually hit me like a slap in the face and I become like stunned and suprised, I just pause and say "uh...thanks." especially if it comes at an unexpected time from an unexpected person. Compliments are difficult because (and especially from strangers) I feel pressured to compliment back (which is often difficult)

seconded.
Couldn't have said it better.

I don't know how to react to compliments and tend to offend the person trying to pay me one.

I don't take praise that well. I get more fulfillment when I take pride in my own work than when other people compliment me.

I've always just thought of it as a self-esteem issue with me.

While I try to always do my best, and I know I do some good things, I don't like people's compliments.

I've had awards from different jobs, one given by the mayor of the city I worked for... but I never go to receive them in person... I ditch them all unless I get cornered at work.

What I really hate is when people are trying to make me say something nice about myself.
I just can't do it.
I get extremely uncomfortable.

I like to praise other people though.

I know, especially if it's on your appearance, because then people seem to expect one in return and I don't really give compliments unless I'm particularly motivated to say it. I'm also not all that bothered about people's apparences, especially females (who tend to be the ones who compliment/enjoy being complimented).