Shunning Oddballs In Order To Be Socially Accepted.

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Deep down would you shun certain people in order to fit in socially with a mainstream clique?

No.

Deep down I shun the mainstream.

Out of the rank things I've done, that's not one of them.. In High School there were 2 kids that were social outcasts that I would hang out and talk with from time to time. One was named Mark, and he was an unusual kid who was real quiet even with those few of us that he would speak to. Another kid I can't even remember his name after all these years, had very bad eyes - thick glasses - and some of the other kids nicknamed him Fearless Fly. I was disgusted with this and got into a fight with a boy who was harassing him. There was another kid who was a social outcast, but it was because he was real gross, picking boogers and wiping them on his pant leg and such. I told that one to stay the hell away from me.

No. Deep down I shun everyone.

I don't like cliques. I can't deal with more than three people at a time and cliques tend to have alot of people in them.

I have done this, but I try not to anymore.

There is a guy I sometimes work with who I'm positive is an Aspie. He's something of a legend in regards to the weird/seemingly stupid things he's done, and I heard stories about him before I even met him. Anyway the others always shun him and talk behind his back, and I don't have the guts to defend him, even though it could easily be me.

I don't.

I shun mainstream society, and my friends know how much I shun it.

No.

I stay as far from mainstream as possible.

If anything I shun normal people to search for the truly unique.

Real life has disappointed me thus far, though. :<

Its hard to change a pre existing situation, in my Local Union there is a member that many of us have tried to be fair to. I believe hes has a combination of Schizotypal Personality Disorder and Paranoid Personality Disorder. You can't do much for those who won't do for themselves. Many of us in my Local tried to help this guy but we couldn't get him to stop collecting trash on job sites, it's part of his magical thinking to save the planet by recycling everything. The last job I know that he was on he got run off for saying he understood the thinking behind the Columbine Massacre. At that point I gave up trying to do anything on his behalf.

Thinking about this question, I sort of regret putting this up because for many people including myself this really hits a very raw nerve. But someone who can really relate to and be accepted by people doesn't need to shun or cozy up to certain people because they can change their wavelength to adapt to who they meet. Then again everybody even Aspies discriminate in some way as far as social relationships go. We all have our arbitrary standards.

Nope. I've got a handful of normal friends, but my two best friends are oddballs like me.

Actually, I would be known to do that in middle school and high school. But now I know better.

I've always felt drawn to oddballs, but either they weren't interested in socialising, or if they were, it quickly turned out that they were odd in different ways from me and we didn't have a lot in common.

Wow, that's that's pretty rebel of you. I myself shun mainstream society to such a degree that God Himself doesn't know much I shun it. I am that rebel and that shunnerific. Deal with it, shunnies!

Ditto. I tend to find the oddballs more interesting than the boring groups who only talk about things which are socially popular e.g. last nights football match, the latest band, gossip about some so called celebrity blah, blah, blah. Superficial crap.

Oddballs often have interesting observations and perspectives on things that the "sheep" haven't noticed or thought about. Having said that, some oddballs are also just plain dumb, but they tend to be worth talking to and finding out either way

To my everlasting shame I did this once in Primary school.

There were three "outcasts" and the other two used to hang out with each other. In one attempt to "fit in" (I was about 9 I think) I joined in the teasing of one of these outcasts. I obviously didn't do it correctly as that person cried and ran away. Once they ran away I ran after them and apologised I felt so bad. Looking back I am sure I would have been teased next anyhow.

But I feel bad to this day that I did it. It was the first and last time I teased anybody.

I don't know if this is what you mean by shunning. As for anything else I don't really have enough interaction with people to have the ability to shun someone. There are people I chose not to talk to, but that isn't to gain acceptance socially. That is just to stave of frustration and annoyance and boredom.

Never have and never will. It's a shame "mainstreamers" feel the need to be just like everyone else and will be fake to impress others and also lie about not really wanting to impress others.

Some of them are actually really envious of those who haven't become as fake as them.

No.
The few people I used to hang around with at school were the odd ones.
My only friends I had were the odd ones.
The first friend I had, had quite bad learning disabilities and was deaf in one ear and we clicked straight away, I've only ever clicked with one other person that well.

I could never fit into the mainstream even if I wanted to which I don't.
I've been treated badly enough by some of them, let them be.