Being Alone

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Do all people with aspergers have a need to be alone a lot? And for those who do what is the reason for it if you don't mind me asking (I know I need a little alone time myself. . .but not a whole lot)

Its hard to explain. Left to my own devices (I say this as I'm a married father and therefore get little alone time), I'd be by myself most of my day because I have little social skills, little desire to socialize, and too narrowly obsessed with certain hobbies or interests to care. I can go out with people I know, and have a good time for awhile, but eventually I realize my differences from everyone, or get anxious and want to retreat back to sanctuary.

I need to be alone a lot.
But sometimes I crave social interaction. I don't know if I have it or not but I like to be alone because I am use to it and I like the quietness and it gives me time to pursue my very intense interest.

I like spending time alone; I work in university housing, so sometimes it's not easy, but when I have a choice I generally like to be alone.

I also like to be around people who are doing quiet things.

Would you get the same alone time type of relief if you were only with one person and it was someone you were comfortable being around and the two of you were just relaxing (or maybe cuddling if it was a bf/gf)?

I like to be alone a lot because being social uses a lot of energy, and I need to recharge and relax. I do get lonely sometimes - after 3 or 4 days of seeing no one, I get a bit depressed and I need to be reassured that people like me, but I don't need to spend lots of time with them to know that, just a lunch or an online chat.

Yes, I require ALOT of alone time. I had a roommate during collage and breifly when I moved into my new home and just hated it. I need privacy, peice, a place to escape, a place that is mine and I feel safe locking the door. In collage I survived as long as possible ONLY because I was surrounded by deep forrests and mountains, I spent so much time outdoors, but now I have my own home and vow NEVER to have a roomate as long as I live. I wont ever even let someone live in my house unless I have a child someday or find a good women. I spend the majority of my time alone, only during work or on weekends to I spend time with others.

I would say that I need alot of alone time. My social skills are poor and I don't desire to socialize much. When I had a job and was going to school it just took so much energy physically and emotionally out of me. Trying to act normal at work and school was difficult. Even when I tried to socialize and hang out with people I would find myself being quiet and not having anything to say. Obviously knowing I was the odd ball out of the group I stopped doing it cuz i figured they was talking about me behind my back anyways.

Although I seem minimally affected by many of the serious problems of people with AS I find gatherings of people oppressive. I hate and am afraid of crowds but enjoy one to one relationships when there are common interests. I find myself much more relating to animals than to people and intensely dislike the arrogant attitudes people usually display to animals, especially wild animals that merely wish to go about their lives undisturbed.

I too prefer to be alone most of the time, but I also need someone special to include in my life so I'm not lonely. It's a paradox.

Sometimes I find being among people boring. Sometimes I find it very good. Sometimes my mind focuses on something crazily and I want to be alone with my thoughts. Sometimes I feel profoundly lonely. And yet, I tend to doubt that feeling would go away if people were present.