Define AS Communication

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How would you define AS communication style?

Clumsy? Hit-and-miss? Self-focused? Quiet? Loud? Eccentric? Indefinable???

Do you mean someone with AS talking with someone else with AS or someone with AS talking with a NT?? I fell when I talk i'm direct ant to the point, but not sure if thats what other people think.

I talk like I walk: Meandering

For me, it's egocentric, with the assumption you know most of what I am saying. It's not that I think anyone else is unimportant it's just difficult to frame things properly without lots of time to make corrections. When the missing last sentences are noticed in conversation it can be clarified, but when posting I need people to point it out. Be gentle in getting clarification though.

I don't think there is an AS communication style. all autistics I've known have had such different and diverse (and often incompatible) communication styles that it's impossible to generalise any 'AS' style from it. I've known some who were excessively formal (even excessively 'appropriate'), and some excessively informal. some talk about themselves a lot, with others you can never seem to get them to talk about themselves at all. I've met a few who talked all the time, even when nobody was listening, but I (despite being very much a people-person) hardly ever communicate at all, because I can't, even though I want to. and one person had no communication quirks at all, he sounded just like an NT!

it's like many other facets of the autism spectrum, there's a diversity which spreads way out of normal range in every direction. I think the right way to look at it is to consider the diversity of different communication styles as a whole, rather than to just think of one style as typical.

Define AS Communication

oxymoron

I have one perfect word, variable.

I think communication style would vary from one aspie to the next, although you'd probably see a few recurring themes if enough people responded. My communication is a lot more NT/normal when I'm writing, my inner personality comes out so much more. When I'm talking my communication is mostly sharing information, facts, etc - the social component is minimal. Very little small talk, very little social chit chat. I ask a lot of (information gathering/non-social) questions too. I'm very straightforward, logical, and to-the-point, and when other people are talking to me I tend to take things very literally.

One thing I find is that I talk the most first thing in the morning - I communicate with the people around me quite a bit. I get quieter as the day goes on - by the end of the day I'm almost mute, only talking if I have something really important to say. I seem to get overloaded pretty easily too and that's another time when I'm almost mute, no matter what time of day it is. During those times when I'm almost mute (especially when I'm overloaded), I find myself wanting to communicate and not being able to do it verbally so I end up using gestures, pointing, etc. When my husband sees that I'm at that point he usually sticks to yes/no questions when he's talking to me and I can just nod or shake my head. I can tell that my functioning is going downhill when I'm still talking, but I'm starting to use those gestures etc at the same time while I'm saying the words.

Overall, I'd have to say I'm pretty quiet - that's almost always the first word that gets mentioned if someone is describing me.

Another thing about my communication is that I tend to confuse people easily. There's just something about the way I word things or maybe my train of thought or something... maybe it has something to do with me being such a visual thinker... It's normal for me to have to repeat/rephrase/explain things at least a couple of times before the other person gets what I'm saying. I've noticed that I usually don't have this problem with other people on the spectrum though (IRL) - there are times when something comes out really weird (I almost confuse myself) and even then, they still understand the first time I say it.

(aargh! Editing again because I keep thinking of more things to add. Lol, another communication issue?)

AS communication for me is often on a need-to basis. I have to trim my conversation to what's needed to be said, otherwise I seem to babble and drone about crap that derives very loosely from the last topic of discussion, and then something slips out to which wasn't meant to be spoken about (like mensturation, etc, LOL) and not only does it get annoying for the other person, but it gets very tiring for me, for when someone gets me going, I speak very loud, and then afterwards I don't want to speak to other people.

NT version: "You know, I think it's time for us to....well, see other people. I mean, you're just too good for me and I think you deserve better. I hope we can still be friends."


AS version: "Get out of my life!"

Often polysyllabic, usually devivered in a monotone, and covering some topics so thoroughly time stands still.

Or maybe that's just me.

EDIT: This was my 1234th post. Just so y'all know. I thought it was cool.

too concise or too through but nothing in between.

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Blunt.

Speaking of "communication".........

White Raven, what on Earth are you trying to say with that bird avatar that has a post instead of a post that has an avatar.....and should thereby have its own zipcode?

Edit: Oh wait! You've replaced it with another one.... Cool phoenix.