Is anyone raising an autistic teenager or adult?

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Just wondering.

Hi roygerdodger,
Not us, we've got a son with Aspergers who's 7 yrs old, and a son who is 4 yrs old...he's NT ( don't you hate acronyms??! !! ! I do, sometimes!

Take care,
Laura

Hi there,
I have a son with Aspergers ( and Dyspraxia - a double whammy) who is 19 now.

my AS son is 16

I am raising an autistic teenager son and I am autistic and raising myself

Yep, my son is 15. How about you?

My brilliantly minded son is almost 15 ( 15 in November)

What's your almost 15 year old like?

Mine goes between sweet and lovely and arguing over everything; he also has decided he knows everything, and is constantly correcting me.

"David, I get really upset when you correct me all the time."
"I don't correct you all the time. If I corrected you all the time, I'd correct everything you say, not just a lot of things."

Yeah, um...

Mine, I know he is my son, but he really is a very together neat individual, especially for his age. I think it helps me being on the spectrum myself, we have a kind of understanding... but like all teenagers he has his moments, usually I realize it just he needs space, so just say "ok, catch you later" when in his moods, find best to give him space and time, if ever he gets very bad, just over hug him, he hates it, but we both end up laughing as he really is very awkward in that regard
He corrects me all the time, but to be honest he is usually right - so I tend to listen to my little professor, as long as he is not being rude... but aspie children can come across as being rude when they are not, so I find always try and point this out to him, rather than tell him not to. Communication, I tend to speak to him at an adult level, as he is very advanced for his age, good healthy discussions find really helps, as long as he feels listens to and not spoken to works well.

nearly, age 12. Goals are responsibility and maturity at this point.

Mine is 13 (aspie) and he is pretty organized, puts away his clothes, knows how to cook for himself... but gets so easily frustrated and angry! Any tips? He is a member of pirates of the caribbean online and he's actually making lots of friends. He says that he feels more comfortable because he doesn't have to actually see them.

I really feel good communication is vital as with any teenagers, and understand if they need downtime to give them space. Often teenagers can get quite frustrated and anger when they feel not understood, or feel your trying to change there routine which may not make sense to you, but does to them.. try not to blame what they do on problems as you may see it. Find a quite time, even go out for some think to eat to discuss any misunderstandings you both may have...

As parents its all to easy to blame and criticize unintentionally.. i.e. "if it wasn't for that computer", "you never listen" we fire comments at our children that do not make sense to them... often there computer is there communication point, try emailing them... I have it can be fun. and teenagers especially aspie ones may seem not to be listen, but they probably are, as have a habit of listening and not looking or giving eye contact. I sometimes just hug mine, he may no response and seem awkward, even say "get off" but I known he appropriates the attention I give him, even get the odd smile

Teenagers today, many on this forum, I feel often give as good or better advice than adults, see things simpler, we really need to talk to our young adults, especially the aspie ones as often very intelligent for there years.. my 14 year old often gives adults advice on my forum, better than me half the time... as sees from an unclouded point of view.

My daughter is 14 and has Asperger's and ADHD. I havea son who is 22 with ADHD, though he reports that it is no longer an issue for him

Communication was what worked for me and my son. My daughter has little tolerance for words spoken to her, so we have to take some time to write some notes. Her tolerance is getting a little better, but voices just wear her out. School is hell for this.

We are raising a 19 yo son, newly diagnosed with AS.

Attempting to survive!!

We continue to guide and support our 18 yr. old ASD (kinda Aspie) son. He is doing quite well except for being bored in the summer. The past 2 years were the hardest but he is learning about his triggers and continues to do CBT with his therapist.

I'm raising a 17 year old son and a 14 year old son with Asperger's, a 7 year old daughter with Asperger's and a 15 year old son with ADHD. It's truly an adventure everyday!