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How do you deal with your so wanting to touch you intimately and all you feel is a tickle or the feeling annoys you? Dh thinks I'm being dramatic or sensitive when I tell him I don't want that type of touch. Is this a common problem? The only touch you may feel comfortable with is one you iniate?

Hello Pook

I am a male and have the exact same issue with touch. Hopefully your Dh will come around. Men often accuse women of being dramatic or sensitive (the sensitive is technically true, but not what he means) when they just want to get their way. Men are trained to "play through the pain" from birth and don't understand when women pay attention to and nurture their own emotions and boundaries. Also, anger is the only emotion that men are allowed to show and still be manly.

He also could just feel rejected and wants you to feel hurt because he does.

I have the same issue. Mostly I'm afraid of being hurt, but whatever doesn't hurt usually tickles, itches or just annoys. Another person can't feel what I feel since their nerve endings are separate from mine. And someone who doesn't have the same equipment- that's like lending your Ferrari to someone who drives an old Ford pickup!

I never liked being touched either. It's not that it ever hurt me or anything but I just didn't like it, unless its my kids touching me. It's funny because I happened to have communicated with an ex boyfriend on facebook who did dump me... he said he was sorry for ending the relationship but he was tired of everything being so one sided and me being so "cold".. I ended up telling him the facts and he actually apologized. He knows some about autism. Good for him, at least he is the open minded type afterall. My husband puts up with me not being overly affectionate with him. One time I was hugging my daughter tightly and he said "I wish you gave me that kind of affection". Well right now, I want to ship him off to the Moon and thats another issues all together

Same here it's like my skin is super sensitive but bizarrely I have a high pain threshold.