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Are You Charismatic?
Yes 22%  22%  [ 12 ]
No 46%  46%  [ 25 ]
Don't Know 31%  31%  [ 17 ]
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01 Sep 2008, 7:20 pm

Yes, I think so because people are always drawn to me, strangely enough, even though my communication skills are nearly nil.



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01 Sep 2008, 7:27 pm

I put yes based on what I have been told by family members/friends. I am not even a little bit charismatic when I am out in the world and in situations that I am uncomfortable in (which is most situations). Most of my life people I am comfortable around tell me things like "If you would act in public the way you do at home then you wouldn't have any problems". Whether or not they are full of crap I don't know.



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01 Sep 2008, 7:31 pm

anbuend wrote:
I've found that even the positive reactions put me on edge, because as often as not the person is putting me on a false pedestal and will get angry at me when I fall off (even if I've already warned them that I'm more human than they're allowing for).

I should clarify that my "peculiar charm" isn't quite so strongly positive. It's just that some people continue to hang out or talk to me on a semi-regular basis, but apart from laughing at an occasional joke, there's never really a clear indication that any of them actually enjoy my company.

I once had a co-worker tell me that I think nobody likes me, but that they really do. I never could figure out why they would, though.



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01 Sep 2008, 7:40 pm

most of the people who don't like me are unpopular and not liked themselves to begin with not people who are dorky but the kind of people who are very uptight and try to hard to impress people. Jealousy perhaps?



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01 Sep 2008, 8:04 pm

Me... charismatic?

I wish.


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01 Sep 2008, 9:15 pm

Only when I'm not feeling shy :wink:

But yeah people generally like talking to me :)



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01 Sep 2008, 9:19 pm

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lol how can you "dont know" if you charismatic or not unless you have alzheimer


Quite easily, if you have no idea of the effect you have on others. I can't tell what others think of me unless they tell me.


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01 Sep 2008, 9:25 pm

Depends on who you ask! :) Some people would say NO WAY, and others would say DEFINITELY


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01 Sep 2008, 9:40 pm

To some, sure, "charismatic" in a way. They often say (annoyingly, kinda) "fey" which is probably about my fairly intense gaze and the fact that I'm quite good-looking but 3/4-sized.

To others, "grating", "arrogant," and weirdly, "intimidating." The last has often puzzled me, because people who rank me in every concrete way (more money, more social respect, every earmark of success, greater physical strength) will confide in third parties that they are intimidated by me.



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01 Sep 2008, 10:08 pm

In a way, I am. When I'm singing or talking about things I know about. But still I don't make friends.



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02 Sep 2008, 2:33 pm

I'd like to say, yes, I am really charismatic.


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02 Sep 2008, 2:41 pm

No, but I've been called charming and mysterious before! :D


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02 Sep 2008, 2:44 pm

I'm not.

And I'm not even sure I'd want to.



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02 Sep 2008, 9:14 pm

Who_Am_I wrote:
UndercoverAlien wrote:
lol how can you "dont know" if you charismatic or not unless you have alzheimer


Quite easily, if you have no idea of the effect you have on others. I can't tell what others think of me unless they tell me.


And even then, how to be sure if they are being honest?
I am charismatic, to myself, and the few that appreciate me. And I feel truly blessed to have that.

I always seem to attract attention from unexpected sources and people whom I expect to take notice or see something in common with never pay attention - it's very strange.

Every once in a while the two intersect, which is nice.
But I wouldn't call it across-the-board charisma. I think I'm just interesting to certain types of people, and I haven't figured out the pattern yet.



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03 Sep 2008, 1:18 am

I don't know... People should judge :wink: