I think I just did something unforgiveable...

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...I slandered a fellow member of WP...

Lemme explain...in a response to one of my recent threads on Haven, a member named Anubis chipped in with the response "It was only forks, grow up"...and I lost it! I called him an insensitive pr*ck and demanded an apology, not realizing that such a reaction could get me in trouble!

But at least allow me to explain now *why* I over-reacted to that...

You see, those two little words, 'grow up', when aimed at me...I'm QUITE irrationally sensitive about them. To me, it implies that no matter how old I am, chronologically, I'll still be infantile and sophomoric. But I'm SMARTER THEN THIS! I just have moments when my Aspergers make me regress to childish behaviours. I mean, haven't we all? I think so, judging from all the posts in Haven dealing with 'meltdowns'.

But my point is, my anger got the better of me when I read Anubis's response, and now I fear I'm going to get banned for committing the ultimate crime on Wrong Planet: insulting a fellow Aspie.

So let me say it clearly right now...before the hammer falls.

Anubis...I'm sorry.

Usagi1992

Anubis is the one that needs to be apologizing. His words were insensitive and pompous.

|-o-| V4der |-o-|

Put him in the blender.

.... no. What you did was human. I don't expect an apology or think that I deserve one. But I have no regrets either.

And of course you aren't going to get banned. I'm more likely to get banned.

From memory Anubis is ok.

You seem to have an overdeveloped guilt complex and fear of punishment thing, usagi. I know some of your other posts relate to the same type of thing. It's like "oh no, I've done the wrong thing and now the sky is falling.

I can understand why someone would think you were immature. You are.

the poster needs encouragement to have acknowledged the fact that he has wanted to and has in fact; apologised.

it is not a time to rally and gang up on him, how many times has he had this occur to him?

how many times have we all had it occur?

AS has inherent difficulties and some can be affected more clearly than others.

I tis very difficult for As to accept they are worng, then admit they have been wrong and then to apologise for doing so.......very difficult and most will dig in, knowing that they are wrong but unable to stop themselves........

reminds me of the story of the scorpion and the frog.
the scorpion asked the frog for a ride across the river upon the frogs back.
the frog refused and told the scorpion " no..you will sting me"

the scorpion said " why would i do that? if i did you would become paralysed and we would both die"

the frog agreed and he began to swim with the scorpion on his back.

halfway across the scorpion stung the frog and as the frog became paralysed and started to sink he said" why did you do it, now we will both die?"

and the scorpion replied " i know ..but it is in my nature"


the point is that the original poster may flame and get irrationally annoyed at others for what can be seen to be minor things.
, but to relaise that the behaviour is wrong , unprompted by anyone else and even thou it goes against his nature, he has pulled himself up and apologised.

and this, my friend is a great step toward self awareness.

and with self awareness comes self control.

With all respects, people do mature significantly as they age. A process which has been considerably accelerated for me. Which is also why I feel beyond everyone else at college.
Granted, you may have more underlying issues than just not being able to control your anger and approach things with more self-control.

Being enraged and then feeling intense guilt after it doesn't help, either. Perhaps it would do some good to meditate on why you have so much pent up rage. Some anger is a virtue, but going berserk over nothing isn't healthy, and definitely isn't a sign of maturity.

Also, I'd like to point out that I mean no ill will towards the OP.

We all act immature sometimes.

You apologised, it takes maturity to apologise. However, I wonder, did you apologise because you were scared of the ban hammer?

You're just trying to stick up for someone. It's not like you mouthed off and went raging or anything.

Usagi has admitted he's a masochist, lets not give him what he wants.

Oh, one last note before I call this quits...

I'm the one that cast that single 'yes' vote. So miraculously, everyone here seems to think I'm not such a bad guy after all...well, the ones that voted anyway.