Friends on Facebook

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Personally, I think you're more likely to have lots of "friends" on facebook.

Here - social skills are less important and your friends are simply a collection of pictures of passing acquaintances, relatives, old classmates etc...

A computer-nerd aspie is more likely to know other computer people who are on facebook than say... a middle-aged labourer on a building site.

(no offence intended to anyone btw).

My school required us to get Facebooks. I have about ten classmates I've recently met as friends on my facebook, and one or two real friends.

i don't see any point with all this facebook stuff, its beyond me. whats the point of adding
people who never speak to you anyway.

It's a good way to keep in touch - to know that people who you can reach out to are only a click away.

Hopefully, you'll at least send a "Merry Christmas" to them - preferably slightly personalised - once a year.

Who knows, relationships change constantly and the cousin or school friend that you never talk to could end up with a child going to the same school as yours.

thinking about it, i'd rather stick to messaging people rather than using the phone.
i just can't stand it when you message a person and they don't get back to you,
it annoys me.

I have rules myself that I can't delete things until I've responded... even then I often muck things up.

The good thing about messaging though - particularly email, is that it becomes semi-permanent (until you delete it) so everytime you go into your inbox, there's this message you haven't responded to. I'll bet that you're more likely to get a response from an email than a written and posted surface mail.

You most certainly can.

I have 203. I just counted and I think I've met 37 of them in person.

Some of them I don't hear from very often but others I certainly do, some I talk to at length nearly every day.

I used to not mind speaking on the phone but now I just don't have the patience for it. I don't know if its because of being so busy with the kids and stuff. I just have no interest to chat on the phone (with the exception of one of my friends for some odd reason) I like facebook because its easier to send messages than yacking on the phone.

I tried facebook but it's hard to navigate and I'm not really into social networking sites as a rule, anyway. I still have a MySpace account, but I have 4 friends on it, all of whom are related to me (I deleted 'Tom, the Default Friend'). I reject friend requests because they're usually from fortyish married men looking to cheat on their wives, plus I don't issue friend requests, either. Something about sending a 'friend request' really bugs me and I just can't do it.

I hate this, I get so often invites from all those site that say "thsi one wants to be your friend ( I never met the person and I don't knwo how they got my adress). The same on many art websites I am on. Or Youtube..this one wants to add you to his friends list. You rhen answer or ask why, what is the interest and I never get a reply of those who wish to add me to their list!! !
It is insane and now I simply delete them

I have something like 87 facebook friends. A lot of them in fact are fellow spectrumers, from the autism advocacy / anti-discriminatory/ pro-autism groups. Then there are the few people I actually really do know...and my parents, lol.

on BBC worldservice programme I saw an interview with the builders of Facebook and they were accused of the lack of privacy on facebook and that it was easy for anyone ot use private info from Facebook users for anyone who wanted to use a different identy on th enet or steal anything from your database

I should probably look at some of those groups. Or not, Facebook already takes up too much of my time!

But yes, over 100 of my Facebook friends are from a particular Facebook group I frequent (read: live on). Some of them are just acquaintances, some I've never met but know as well as you can know anyone without meeting them.

It's not AS-related, but I know at least four of my friends from that group have AS, and two of them (I didn't know the other two had it at the time) were literally the first people I talked to when I suspected I might have it.

I still haven't found much of a use for myspace but I find facebook to be very good.

Since I collect a lot of movies, books, computer games etc, I've loaded applications for each of those which help me track what I've watched and what I thought of it, while showing me other things that I might be interested in based on my past selections. It also highlights which of my friends have similar tastes.

If I find groups discussing things that interest me, I'll post on them and if I know someone, I'll often issue a friend request. It used to bother me, but now it doesn't.

Finally, since I've got digg and youtube accounts etc and I read lots of blogs... whenever I see anything interesting, I post it to my profile using the buttons on the blog/video etc...

My digg feed comes through automatically because of the digg applet.

oh, and I've got facebook setup to automatically pull an RSS feed from my blog.

How much is 'a lot'? What ones count?

Like I have about 100-110 people at the moment from my high school on there and I don't talk to them at all (literally not at all, I didn't talk to them during school and I don't talk to them now), yet they're still 'friends', and they make up ~2/3rds of my total friends

LOL - agreed! I added a bunch of writers as friends on Authornation.com (social network for writers) after they sent a message wanting to add me -- and after I approved them, they never spoke to me again. I even contacted them to discuss writing and got no reply. I then wondered what the purpose of having online 'friends' on my page was for anyway. So that I could look 'popular?' Load of crap, I think. People just want to add you so they look more popular. There's no real point to it.