I've got the Dieting Blues *sigh*

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Yes, it's me again, but this time it ISN'T about my family!

It's about...my stuggle with trying to reach a goal that most would find unreasonable.

You see, about 3 weeks ago, I went back to my gastrointerologist to check up on my recent rectal abscess surgery. and she lightly scolded me for gaining 10 pounds since my last visit to her. Now, all she said was that she wanted to see me lose that much by the time I went back to her in December, but I have it stuck in my head I have to lose double that amount, just to rub it in her face!

The first few days of the forced no fatty foods diet went okay, but last night, I committed a MAJOR no-no...without even thinking of the consequences, I asked for a puu puu platter for one when my family ordered out for Chinese!! And considering it was after 6PM, that pretty much killed my chances for 7 pounds lost in the first month.

You know what the difference is between you and me? I make it a habit to ALWAYS feel sh**ty after eating something that's bad for my body, even if it tastes good. My motto is "If you're not depraving yourself, then it's not gonna work."

And the funny thing is, my guts doctor didn't even say I HAD to go on this diet, she merely recommended it...well, I recommend that I DO.

I'll be back...

Usagi1992

Is it safe to lose 10 lbs in such a short time period?

I know how that feels i've been depressed too because of my weight i'm morbidly obese & can't seem to lose weight & try so hard but i end up "yo-yo' ing"

Yeah I know what you mean. Your post is me to a nutshell. It becomes an obsession, I get obsessed about being the perfect weight. I'm not even overweight right now by a long shot, but I want to lose about 1.5kg off my hips. (I know this sounds ridiculous, but I think you'd understand from the stuff you said in your post). I also feel like s**t when I eat something unhealthy, and the feeling of excess fat on my hips and especially my stomach makes me feel nauseous like I can't breathe.

sure you can and then some. I lost 50 pounds in 4 months just counting calories and working out. devotion and commitment gets you everywhere.

Thats why I don't diet, I eat better and 5 times a day and not past 8. I still enjoy my fave foods, but all in moderation and portioned out to fit my daily calorie intake

Back, because I wanted to add something that my best friend Tony said to me last night...something which would greatly explain why I can't succeed in weight loss.

He thinks it's because I stress out too much when I slip up! You see, when under a lot of stress, the body produces more cortizol then usual, which is a chemical that really slows down your metabolism rate.

He also said that to err is human, and that if I do have 'moments of weakness', simply enjoy what I'm eating, and not feel guilty about it. Well, that's easier said then done, as it contravenes a philosophy I've held strongly for 31 years:

"Make one mistake, and you pay for it the rest of your life"...which I suppose in my current case could also mean 'a moment on the lips, a lifetime on the hips'.

What do you guys think?

Back, after about two weeks, and I have semi-good news...

I didn't make my goal of 20lbs lost in 3 months....I only lost half of it.

But at least, I didn't get scolded by Dr. Prall again.

My friend Tony said he was proud of me regardless, as 'any victory is a victory'...but like I've said before...that Apollo Creed mentality, heh.

Maybe I'll do even better when I go back for my colonoscopy in a month...but I doubt it.

Usagi1992

Part of me is annoyed at your guts doctor, whom you didn't go to see because of something due to your weight, for telling you you had to lose 10 pounds by the time you went back to her!


your mental health is more important than that. Don't lose the weight if you don't really really want to. And if you want to lose the weight, don't lose the weight because you think you're ugly; lose it because you think you'll look good. Don't lose the weight because being your weight is unhealthy; do it because you feel good lighter. And don't lose the weight because other people will nag you or put you down if you don't; lose it because they'll compliment you if you do.


Oh, and don't lose it because you think you have no self-control and need to learn it. Lose it because it makes you feel good to have self-control, and because it's a fun challenge.

Yes, don't lose weight for anyone else. You have to have a desire within yourself to do it. I don't diet and I will never diet again. What I am doing though is changing my relationship with food as I am addicted. And the more at peace I am with it, the more weight I am losing.. and it's working. All I am saying is, you need to do these things for yourself at your own pace, not for anyone else.

My strategy is don't have anything easy to snack on available to you, and pretty much just stuff that has to be made into a meal, and that has been working for me.... Until I go home and my dad has a crap of snacky foods in the house. If there is something easy to eat, I will eat it.

I'm also watching what I eat. I was at my clubhouse Christmas party, and I took three small plates of finger food. I used to take 7 or 8 small plates of finger food, in previous years, up to until last year. I sat with my best friend and waited it out, for two hours, and found that I wasn't all that hungry. It dawned on me that I was able to manage to eat just the equivalent of one plate of supper. I was bragging to him about it, a little bit. One of the guests at the party asked Dean and I, if we wanted any more food and that she would get it for us. I was able to say no. That wast the hardest thing that I've ever done.