It is socially allowable for a woman to be taken care of by relatives. A woman staying at home 'til age 25, and marrying thereafter, may never live on her own, truly, at all. Women are not as expected to get jobs or go to college.
For a man, it is considered quite unusual and unacceptable for him to remain unemployed and living with family.
Women can get away with doing less than men, even though they are capable of just as much, because society allows it.
Women can also get away with being shy, awkward, and socially clumsy more easily than men can. It is OK, culturally, for a woman to be introverted. It is also more acceptable for her not to date very much, while for a man it is culturally expected that he WILL have a date, and lose his virginity at least by the mid-teens. If a woman is shy and unassuming, people will think she is feminine. If a man is shy and unassuming, people will think he is a wimp.
Double standards do not help male autistics any. And they keep female autistics from getting a diagnosis.