My mum tells me to "act normal"

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Yep.

Its not enough that I cant be myself at school or whenever I'm out anywhere, but now I cant be myself even in my home with my family.

i get that all the time too

"Normal" compared to what?

Have you asked your mother what "normal" means to her?

Brace yourself ... her anwer might apall you

Normal as in act like a NT, which I am not going to do when I'm at home!

You like someone for their perfections but you love someone for their flaws.


quote from an unknown source inside of my mind that I heard one time or another.

like the girl that looks insanely cute when she trips or stumbles heh ive met a girl or two like that but anyways. My mom is glad I'm quiet and uhhh I guess the word would be either docile or calm at all times no matter what the situation.

If she wants you to be normal then start yelling at her and then sneak out and stay out all night on weekdays, after a while she'll find that slightly weird child is better than a violent normal child (all of my siblings fight all the time with irrational reasons except for me and my youngest sister who is also autistic spectrum) heh my mom wishes that my siblings were more like me behavior wise.

Which one?!

LOL good idea

My brother mostly, I cant tell you the amount of times she has said she wishes I was more like him

Does your mother with she'd had twins then? lol

(Apologies if you are actually a twin, I'm afraid I don't know)


Oh dear...I hope this isn't favouritism: I feel bad for you if is.

Only you can play the part of you the best.

LOL nope not twins dont worry

I think it is, she is generally more nice to my brother than me... Dont get the the wrong idea, she's not horrible but I think she lacks understanding of what its like to have AS, then again can I really blame her for that? After all, I have the same level of difficulty understanding NTs sometimes.

Well how do you normally act, I guess act like that because its normal for you.

Me too. 'Would you please not act like a three year old?!'

I have a half childish personality so I act like 5 year old sometimes (this makes them angry for some reason) also I point out when they get small things wrong, I make jokes all the time, I'm not sure what other aspects of my personality annoy them but I'm sure there is more.

They call me annoying a lot and tell me to "stop being silly" and "be more like Jake" (my brother) and "be a big boy" that one really pisses me off because I AM NOT STUPID!

Since it seems your mother isn't out-right desparaging in her treatment I would simply chalk it up to growing pains- for you both.
I don't know of a parent who doesn't regularly harp on their child(ren) to be more like the Jones' kid, Johnny Perfct. I guess it's part of being a parent: Simply wanting your kids to fit in, be sucessfull and not have the hardships they might've had growing up.

EXACTLY! See my previous post!