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14 Dec 2008, 3:23 pm

I have been thinking lately, and I am wondering if I need some type of psychological help or something. I often hate myself for having AS, and what that does to me, and find it difficult to get out of that spiral of thinking. I often think that I hate my life, and just want to be someone else. There are zero resources for adults with AS where I am. I have seen counselors, but they haven't helped that much. If I could get someone to hypnotize me into liking myself and being a happy person that would help, it would be second only to getting rid of the AS. I wonder if this is the only way my relationship life could get better?



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14 Dec 2008, 4:38 pm

It's a good idea, but that's not how hypnotism works. I had a psychologist who specialized in hypnotism and can tell you true hypnotism is nothing like what you see on tv. They can't make you do something through hypnotism.

Perhaps what you need is cognitive behavioral therapy which helps you to relearn how to behave in a nutshell. Its long term and intensive but the idea is to reflect back on all the bad things in one's life and what one could have done to change the outcome and what you can do in the present to avoid following the same negative patterns. Since you aren't happy with your previous therapist I would suggest doing research on the therapist before you go. For one thing check out the initials after their name. If they aren't Ph.D., Psy.D. or Ed.D. don't go to them. Avoid therapists with the initals L.C.S.W., M.S.W., M.Ed., M.S.Ed., Ed.S., D.Min. or M.Div. as they are nothing more than counselors for basic life issues and not psychologists though they may try to pass themselves off as psychologists. Also it helps to find a psych who has experience with autistic people.



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14 Dec 2008, 4:51 pm

What about a straight-up M.D.?



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14 Dec 2008, 5:00 pm

Space wrote:
I have been thinking lately, and I am wondering if I need some type of psychological help or something. I often hate myself for having AS, and what that does to me, and find it difficult to get out of that spiral of thinking. I often think that I hate my life, and just want to be someone else. There are zero resources for adults with AS where I am. I have seen counselors, but they haven't helped that much. If I could get someone to hypnotize me into liking myself and being a happy person that would help, it would be second only to getting rid of the AS. I wonder if this is the only way my relationship life could get better?


The first time I had PTSD from a sexual harassment and stalking trauma, I hated myself. I was on pills including sedatives, gained 40 lbs, for many years. I eventually pulled myself out barely enough to try another shot at University.

I got traumatized again. Only this time instead of hating me, I hate them. Guess. For some reason, I have recovered my ego, self-esteem, not gained weight or anything. I'm just working with the hatred and trying to get rid of it.

I have to say that my first bout with PTSD was much worse than the second. There is nothing worse than being in a spiral of hating yourself and being traumatized or struggling with things like depression, anxiety, confusion.

It is very tough, to have those feelings and attract another person or pull up your own self-esteem and be happy.

I don't have specific advice for you because my experiences were so unusual. But I hope you find a way to reconnect with your self-love and pride and joy in your self. Is that the "inner child"? And yes, IMO when people love themselves and feel good about their parts and pieces, they are happier and that makes a man very attractive.

Good luck!



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14 Dec 2008, 5:02 pm

ToadOfSteel wrote:
What about a straight-up M.D.?


M.D.'s are medical doctors and should not be offering therapy sessions. If so they either have a secondary degree or else they are breaking the law.



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14 Dec 2008, 5:04 pm

unless you have lots of money or are in a program that will subsidize any bills you will aquire from going to a doctor i wouldnt go. besides it sounds like your just lonely, go for a walk man and think about starving children in africa and be happy your not a orpahn left to raise yourself. the trick is apprechiating your life and remembering it can always be worse, someone always has it worse than you and your life with all of its challenges isnt this bad :)


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14 Dec 2008, 6:35 pm

Space wrote:
I have been thinking lately, and I am wondering if I need some type of psychological help or something. I often hate myself for having AS, and what that does to me, and find it difficult to get out of that spiral of thinking. I often think that I hate my life, and just want to be someone else. There are zero resources for adults with AS where I am. I have seen counselors, but they haven't helped that much. If I could get someone to hypnotize me into liking myself and being a happy person that would help, it would be second only to getting rid of the AS. I wonder if this is the only way my relationship life could get better?


Hey, why not look outside the box and try some alternative medicine? If conventional medicine doesn't show you much support maybe people who work in naturopathy or chinese medicine can help you. Often we don't look at our minds and bodies as being connected, but they are. What you put into yourself has a direct correlation with what you get out of yourself. Perhaps there are some strategies that an alternative health practitioner can help you implement that will help you feel more empowered and in control of your life.



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14 Dec 2008, 7:48 pm

I have or had PTSD too and I didnt know what was going on. I was confused. What really help me was report a specialist wrote. It helped me put everything into perspective. I have just been reading it.

In regards to PTSD he put a recrudescence of her symptoms, inclusive of sleep disturbance, flashbacks, nightmares, a lowered threshold for frustration, increased hypervigilence to danger and reduced capacity to trust. It is apparent that the intrusive nature of her condition in turn had a significant impact upon her judgement and threshold for frustration.

No doubt her capacity to cope is further compromised by virtue of her own psychiatric condition.
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She possess lowered degrees of energy and drive. Her concentration and task focus are fragmented reflecting her ongoing state of anxiety and depression. These deficits may also have a constitutional basis as reflected in her general medical history.

It is abundantly clear however that she has suffered from marked psychological problems for most of her life arising from her turbulent and traumatised formative years. At examination she was well oriented in time place and person, with no indications of psychosis. She is however highly subjective in her outlook and at times tends to interpret her situation according to her emotional state. This is of some relevance in terms of her symptomatology clearly having a significant impact upon her capacity to critically evaluate problem situations free from emotional bias. It is apparent she lacks confidence in her interpersonal skills and that she has considerable difficulty in effectively communicating her needs to others. Her low self esteem arises from her history.
She presents as a cooperative though highly anxious woman. She has a complicated and traumatic developmental history. I note that she has been diagnosed with a range of psychiatric conditions, inclusive of a Learning Disability, a Personality Disorder and Epilepsy. I would suggest in addition that she has suffered a longstanding Post Traumatic Stress Disorder, according to DSM-IV criteria, as a consequence.
The untreated nature of her problems would have no doubt contributed to and exacerbated her learning difficulties at school.
It would appear however that in the absence of treatment she managed to suppress the full extent of her condition up until recent times.
It would appear she experienced a significant psychological decompensation subsequent to embarking upon a course of treatment to deal with her unresolved symptomatology.

Anyway, there is heaps more but I can't be bothered because it is a 7 page report and Psychologists are the best people to see. i dont like psychiatrists at all.



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14 Dec 2008, 8:48 pm

I am done school forever in 8 months, so hopefully being gainfully employed and making a lot of money will improve my self esteem and outlook on life.



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15 Dec 2008, 8:30 am

Say thats all what I need is a job. They told me I wasnt ready and referred me here and said to go there and then when I was ready. I can come back and say I am ready to work now and I am :D
Being employed definetly increases your self esteem. It gives you sense of achievement and of doing something worthwhile.
If you keep to your goals. You'll be alright.
I lost my last job because of PTSD.