Do you actually want to socialise, though?

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Aspies are not good at socialising but do any of you actually want to?

I don't really.

I want to definatly, I like having a social life it's just a bit tricky at times

why when most people around me are flipp'n stupid.

More than anything

it's always better to have options, even if you wouldn't want to use them in most cases. so I voted yes.

I used to not want to socialize at all, but now I do. You don't remember a lot of what goes on in the classroom, but you remember your social interactions very well for years. Unfortuantely, I haven't built that many memories.

speak for yourself

I'm apathetic about socialising. i choose no.

I do but it would only be with people I think highly of. I would never socialize with just some random person. There's some people I've known that I would like to be friends with but I just can't get myself to do it. They don't ask me so I assume they aren't interested. I rely on other people's actions to determine if they like me or not instead of me seeking the truth myself.

Yes, I want to be able to participate & not be excluded. I want to find a way to have people in my life.

I like spending time alone - I just don't want that to be my only option.

You have to learn that most people aren't "flippin' stupid" like you said, they just think differently from the rest of us and they have problems understanding us. If you've been surrounded mostly by bad people, then I apologize. But, in my experience, believeing that most people are good people and trying to socialize better has made me a happier person.

Some of the original assumptions are not true. It isn't that Aspies are 'bad' at socializing it's that we socialize in a different way than regular people. There is a difference in being different and once you realize it then socialization can be better and easier but sometimes we actually don't need it or even want it or even care about it one way or another.

I don't really want to socialise generally. I'd much rather be doing almost anything else (even the ironing), but would I like to be able to socialise better? Yeah, cause then it wouldn't be quite the stress-fest that it is currently.

I have a works party to go to this Saturday. I'm trying to keep the idea of it at arms' length, so as not to get too wound up about it. It'll be fine, I've been ok in the past, so I'm making sure to keep calm and just take it as it comes.

It's just it grates in so many areas; there's the meal (food issues ahoy), chit chat, then *shudder* dancing and loud music. It's only for a few hours though and once the lights go down, I'll hopefully be able to sneak off unnoticed!

Nope, generally the people I find it hard to socialize treat me like crap, I don't want to be like them.
EMZ.

In general I don't miss socialization. But I wish I could turn it on when I need to talk to someone and get them to like me. Of course, if I can't get them to like me just by being myself, maybe I don't really want to talk to them after all.

Yes and no. I want to be able to socialize well (that is, communicate effectively); but I don't want to do it much. It's just that if you want to get a job, work with people, help someone out, or team up with other people when a job is too big for you, you have to communicate.

Communication's a necessary skill; but social contact isn't too important. There's a difference.