Misunderstood on the internet?

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I just got misunderstood on the internet in a forum, yet again.

I was wondering how many of you this happens to?

What do you usually do about it when it happens?

Have you ever tried to explain you Autism?

Did people ever criticize you when you tried to explain your Autism?

What did you find was the best ways to deal with any of this?

Or just tell your story about it if you want.

It happens to me sometimes.

Sorry I don't understand what your saying

Yeah, it happens to me a lot. I don't tell them I'm autistic, some might already know. If I'm misunderstood sometimes I just go with it or I try explain that they misunderstood me. I don't mind if it happens over the internet but in real life is when it gets annoying.

what?

Happens to me all the time, I just ignore it

people who misunderstand are the ones who are incorrect so i lose no sleep over it.

Misunderstood all the time, but as long as it makes sense to me, I don't care. Makes life interesting, when you get a totally different response then expected. I never try to offend people, so if they take offence to something I said, then that is there problem, not mine. I usually apologies once, (if I didn't mean to offend them) and if that isn't good enough, the hell with em.

Todd

Misunderstandings I have had due to having told people I have AS all happened in offline, local interaction.

Online, I told a select few people I have AS. These people at least seemed perfectly accepting of my AS, despite the inescapable fact that people I talked to online were so gobsmackingly disloyal towards me.

I would never try to explain my autism over an internet forum (besides an autism or related one). When I've been misunderstood in the past, I've provided an explanation if asked for in a reasonable way; if they are flaming (or something) I say nothing, and move on.

I have been misunderstood a lot on internet forums. I would not recommend explaining your autism or Asperger's on the internet, because, even if the person isn't flaming, even if he/she is being reasonable, if you explain your autism or Asperger's on the internet to them, the lowlifes will also be able to read what you wrote, and they will only become more disrespectful of you as a result.

I've been banned from more MBs than I care to remember due to arguments and misunderstandings.

I just don't bother posting anywhere anymore, except here of course. Not worth the time or the hassle;Life is too short.

Happened to me once on a forum, and sadly it made me hated when I didn't intentionally do anything wrong, I was trying to be good but things didn't go as planned.

Myspace, facebook, emails, and there was this huge avant garde club/forum I belonged to. I got kicked out of a group I joined and I had NO idea why. It was after I had given someone a compliment. Granted, I was acting like a silly little school girl, but I thought people would understand that I was trying to be funny and not obnoxious. And than, just in general my comments and posts go pretty much ignored, even when I try NOT to be so nerdy ... and not so me, and I try to sound more like them and I try to be well, what I perceive them to be like and try to imitate their intonations and innuendo and mannerisms. They always completely ignore me and keep talking around me to each other! It's like they don't know what to make of me or something. My attempts at trying to be more like them to fit in might make my differences even more obvious, I dont know. I have never had any concept of normal social behavior or interactions, so although it may look normal enough to me, the things that I say/type and the way that i say/type them, I cannot say what they imply for other people. Maybe I'm still awkward even when I try. I don't know. But it has been frustrating. VERY frustrating. And no, I have never explained when people react negatively to me being me, that I have Asperger's, because very recently only have i discovered that I have it. I KNOW i have it. No other diagnosis makes sense for my unexplained social retardation since early childhood, and all of my other weird tendencies and habits. But, when I was only diagnosed with bi-polar, social anxiety, agoraphobia, depression, and post-traumatic stress disorder, I would NEVER explain away my behavior when I thought people even possibly could have been offended by anything I did or said. So far as I knew, I had done nothing wrong, and I had no bad intentions with anything I did or said. I had good intentions. Sure it made me feel like a freak and it is an endless source of frustration, to have this sense that I am putting people off, but I do not feel that i owe anyone an explanation like that. They weren't my friends to begin with. What have they done for me?

Not since I mastered Emticons...

Yeah, those suckers are gold. I swear I emote better on the internet than I do face to face because of those. You can plan your facial expression as carefully as you want!

I have come to assume that my meaning will misinterpreted unless I am very specific about it. My biggest misunderstandings seem to come when I attempt to be playful. My humor tends to have a harsh edge to it and most people miss the humor of it or simply don't think my jokes are appropriate. I take a rather light view of death, for example, and have a very, very cynical attitude toward too many humans. It's hard not to let this show. And I confess when I am angry about something, if I so much as open my mouth, one way or another, it'll come out. If I don't have a meltdown outright, I will most likely make a nasty comment. So now that I think of it, these days my misunderstandings are really me shooting off my big mouth.

But yeah, I have been misunderstood a lot even when I was trying to be funny.