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sammykin
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09 Mar 2009, 8:25 am

hello everyone,

i have 3 children and my 11 year has a diagnosis of higher lever autism and my husband has asperger. i am finding it hard to cope with everything, particulalry the anger that escalates badly from both of them when things do not go as planned or in husbands case, when he considers the children are being naughty. i am hopint to find some advice here so i know i am not alone!! !! :?



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09 Mar 2009, 8:27 am

Welcome to www.wrongplanet.net :wink: :D



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09 Mar 2009, 8:47 am

Welcome to WP! My son has HFA and I have come to realize that my husband probably has aspergers too. You are definately not alone here.



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09 Mar 2009, 11:35 am

Nice to meet and welcome you to the Wrong Planet, sammykin.


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09 Mar 2009, 11:42 am

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09 Mar 2009, 5:07 pm

Hello.


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09 Mar 2009, 5:17 pm

Wow. That is going to take all your problem-solving skills. Some people go to Aspires to talk specifically about spouse relationships between NT and Aspie. I hope you'll check out the parent forum here.



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10 Mar 2009, 10:35 am

Wlecome here and hope we can help when you need it. :)


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10 Mar 2009, 7:39 pm

Hi sammykin welcome, often the anger and frustration is lack of understanding on both sides, hopefully I can help give you a little more insight...
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13 Mar 2009, 11:59 am

hi sammykin

I HAVE 3 SONS ALL ON THE SPECTRUM AND A HUSBAND TOO HE WAS DIAGNOSED APPROXIMATELY 18 MONTHS AGO.
I CAN FULLY UNDERSTAND THE PROBLEMS YOU ARE HAVING.
I FOUND THING A LITTLE EASIER WHEN WE FOUND OUT. IT EXPLAINED ALOT.
IT IS DIFFICULT . I KNOW. WHEN THINGS HAPPEN BETWEEN MY KIDS AND HUBBY. I FIND MYSELF GETTING STRESSED OUT MORE WITH MY HUSBAND. I DONT MEAN TOO. ITS JUST THE HELP I NEED HE CANT ALWAYS GIVE.
SO I HAVE TO STEP BACK AND ASSESS THE SITUATION AND DEAL WITH IT APPROPRIATELY.
MOST OF THE TIME I DEAL WITH HIM THE SAME WAY I DO THE CHILDREN.
IM NOT SAYING THAT ALL ADULTS WITH AS. SHOULD BE TREATED LIKE THAT. BUT I HAVE TOO WITH MY HUSBAND.
BUT THIS MEANS I HAVE TO DEAL WITH PRETTY MUCH EVERYTHING. ON MY OWN.
IF MY HUSBAND DEALS WITH A SITUATION HE TENDS TO GET UPSET/ANGRY TOO. SO THE SITUATION ESCULATES.
I HAVE JOINED THIS SITE TO TALK TO PEOPLE LIKE YOURSELF AND TO TALK TO OTHER AUTISTIC/AS ADULTS.
I DO WONDER SOMETIMES WHETHER I LET HIM GET AWAY WITH THINGS. AND FEEL TALKING TO ANOTHER I CAN FIND OUT IN SOME SITUATIONS. WHETHER IT IS APART HIS AS PERSONALITY OR WHETHER IT IS HIS PERSONALITY AS A PERSON.

AS ASPLANET SAID often the anger and frustration is lack of understanding on both sides,