How I overcame my depression.

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If you had read a bit more carefully, you would understand I said there are good people out there. The world itself, yes, it can go to hell, but there are good people out there I would go out of my way to help.

In fact, these issues of isolation as a coping mechanism seem to be irrelevant in relationships when they do come along. When I have someone I can trust enough to let them that close, I'm keen to turn to them for comfort instead of isolating myself as a coping mechanism.

My point was that in learning to understand myself, I still didn't have the complete picture. I saw nothing wrong with who I was. When I focused on understanding others, and their motives, I became jaded to a great majority of the species and realized I didn't want to be a part of that. I realized I could be happy alone if I found something to occupy myself. If someone comes along, great, if not, that's fine too.

The point isn't to avoid everyone alive, but to become apathetic to what they think and feel about me. Since then I've been more confident, happier, and surprisingly I'm noticing a lot of romantic signals that I see no point in acting on, at least for the present time. The world seems more like a game to me than anything, now that I'm confident I know how it works.

Well, I read it over a few times and it still wasn't quite clear to me, so it wasn't that I was skimming. I get your point now. All I can say is that if it works, it works. But I just like to caution that it may not be good to fall on any one single way to cope, though you may have gone through a lot of attempts. Really, that's all.

People are certainly difficult to deal with, though, and it is one big game out there. I've been realizing how scant empathic responses are in the general population recently. It's disheartening, but sometimes playing the game can be fun for me. Whatever works, as I said. Having a good grasp of the big picture is a huge plus.