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philosopherBoi
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15 Mar 2009, 1:17 pm

So about a week ago I suppose I told this guy I knew I had fallen in love with him, I didn't mean to fall in love I just did. Sadly he couldn't return the love so ever sense my emotions have been going haywire, imagine a brain having a major seizure now multiple that chaos by 100 that is what my emotions are doing right now. I said some horrid things to that guy I fancied, I was and still am hurt, well to sum it up I want to make up but I don't know what to do. I have this pride problem I can't apologize it will make me seems weak, pathetic and I just can't admit to him I was wrong. I know I have to make up or my heart will never truly mend but I am just so confused lord I need a guide.


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15 Mar 2009, 1:26 pm

I used to get crushes all the time on people who could not return affection. It used to absolutely devastate and tear me up inside. Eventually, I found people where there was a mutual attraction. Most often, they approached me first.

You WILL get through this. God does have a plan for you. The right person is out there.


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15 Mar 2009, 1:33 pm

whitetiger wrote:
I used to get crushes all the time on people who could not return affection. It used to absolutely devastate and tear me up inside. Eventually, I found people where there was a mutual attraction. Most often, they approached me first.

You WILL get through this. God does have a plan for you. The right person is out there.



I don't know if there is a man out there for me, I mean sometimes its just not in ones future. I however think I will stick to pursuing autistic mates as they can best relate to my emotions, experiences. Anyways is it normal for people's emotions to go haywire after being rejected?


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15 Mar 2009, 4:28 pm

katsandogz. com/onlove.html

Well one thing is for sure if your pride is hurting u its not the good kind of pride. i hope this link helps



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16 Mar 2009, 10:58 pm

The love for this person will pass, and you will move onto something or someone else. There will be good times and bad. There isn't much anyone has control over, but reading stuff about relationships is always helpful for me. I swallow my pride and buy books like Women Who Love Too Much and He's Just Not That Into You. I'd tell you not to waste your time obsessing about this guy, but I know it's difficult. So I'll only tell you "this too shall pass."



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16 Mar 2009, 11:12 pm

philosopherBoi wrote:
So about a week ago I suppose I told this guy I knew I had fallen in love with him, I didn't mean to fall in love I just did. Sadly he couldn't return the love so ever sense my emotions have been going haywire, imagine a brain having a major seizure now multiple that chaos by 100 that is what my emotions are doing right now. I said some horrid things to that guy I fancied, I was and still am hurt, well to sum it up I want to make up but I don't know what to do. I have this pride problem I can't apologize it will make me seems weak, pathetic and I just can't admit to him I was wrong. I know I have to make up or my heart will never truly mend but I am just so confused lord I need a guide.


Don't think about it just do it!

I have the same problem and there are many times where I've let my pride cut me off from relationships. Going into anger management and going through and having to deal with my emotions was terrible but it was also a learning experience.

If not, at least you're aware of this fallacy yourself. Can't say what it's like to be gay and find another person, I'm sure it's hard but don't let this one person get to you in such a way that it defines where you're at as far as love is concerned.


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17 Mar 2009, 4:31 am

philosopherBoi wrote:
Anyways is it normal for people's emotions to go haywire after being rejected?


Yes, it's very normal.

If you need to make up with him, it might be easier to type something in an email or write it down. You could keep it very brief if it's hard.



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17 Mar 2009, 2:09 pm

philosopherBoi wrote:
Anyways is it normal for people's emotions to go haywire after being rejected?

It is normally experienced that when people assume that their expectations will automatically be met, and instead find out otherwise; especially when they discover that their expectations are overwhelmingly rejected - in which case you can also expect a full nuclear meltdown.


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