Am I the only Nt here?

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Hi everyone, I have been here for a short while and thought it about time I introduced myself properly.
I am an Nt woman with an undiagnosed Aspergic daughter named Claire. I also have an aspergic husband, but it's to late getting him diagnosed.
A forum GrooveyDruid started, about masks made me realize that our son has aspergers more than I thought, because he wears a mask he has become apt at hiding it. And doesn't want to be labeled. He has also taught himself some eyecontact which our daughter doesn't do.

Are there more NTs out there with Aspergic family members or friends.

I also home taught.
have osteo authritus and border line rheumatoid (what ever that means.) and suffer panick attacks.
On the brighter side I love to cross stitch and read science fiction, magic science fiction, and end of world new beginning story lines. and I am addicted to Harry Potter.
Have some aspergic tendencies but more Nt.

Yes, there's a fair number. BeeBee is an NA (NT) who has a son with PDD-NOS and she's also a very active moderator.

GhostsInTheWallpaper is also a member who has ADHD.

And there's more NA parents in the parents forum, too.

Hope that helps.

Red velvet cake is my absolute favorite!....Welcome to WP. I had a meeting with a Senior Vice President in our rather large company day before yesterday which required more eye contact than I am comfortable with, so even after years of self discipline, it can still be tough. There's a whole spectrum of fine folks here at WP, but I am not NT. There are, however, plenty of parents to compare notes with, so good luck in your quest!

Bland-I am supposedly neurotypical but I dont think I started out that way. I wrote about growing up on the "How did you explain your differences to yourself?" thread. I have an AS 12 year old son, an ADHD husband, an ADHD 9 year old son, a 10 year old daughter that I highly suspect of being ADD, and 3 seemingly NT children ages 18, 17, and 4. When I have spoken about the possibility of my having displayed many AS qualities as a child I get the following responses: family- No, you were just good and quiet and highly intelligent.
immediate family-(husband)-Absolutely! (children)-You are really wierd!!
friends-No, you're just unique.
professionals that deal with my son- No way ! Highly doubtful.
Even to this day I don't share my thoughts with anyone or only some thoughts with some people because I know that most wouldn't understand. Also I coach myself alot mentally to decipher peoples actions and behavior because I dont think and feel the same way as most people. I have learned to empathize but I cant honestly sympathize. I have struggled over whether these coping mechanisms are what everyone does or just those who are atypical? I also wonder if I will revert to the "old ways" when Im old and feeble and too sick or tired to keep it up? Any thoughts on this?

Welcome, fellow Earthling.

I befriended an Aspergian back in May, and that's how I found out about this place, which can be an interesting venue to discuss neuro-psychology.

There are more Earthlings around here...there's HisGirl, who was planning on making a long-distance relationship with a possible Spectrumite more serious; there's Reeses, who joined inquiring about how to get her possibly Aspie classmate to socialize comfortably; and there's DrizzleMan, whose real-life association with Aspergians is unknown to me, who likes to play on the game threads.

my hubby and son are aspies, as well as much of hubby's family.

Bland I think I understand about your copying mechanisms, We all learn ways to cope with difficult situations, I know that I have great empathy, I can imagine being in the other persons shoes, with all the variables, but I lack genuine sympathy it just isn't there, so I nod in the right places, show my concern but it's only surface deep. I know it's an awful thing to say but thats how it is.
But you do seem to do what I imagine grown Aspergers people to do, because they have to cope with NT people. So you have taught yourself to empathize but can't sypathize beacuse you probably don't fully understand there situation and how it is effecting them. Also I have read that Aspergic people have a lot of trouble deciphering the intentions and behaviour etc of other people.
And you know you'r different.
Claire recently said to me, that when we used to watch Voyager (Star Trek) she could empathize with Seven Of Nine, because thats how she has felt all her life, as though she was so much different then other people. And that other people were the weird ones because they didn't make sense. They wern't logical.

But some Dr wouldn't be bothered with an adult who thinks that they may have it because the way the DR looks at it, an adult has coped with it all their lifes while bother getting a DX now.
You know how you feel and realy only you know.
Pm me any time, it's great talking to you.

hi all! Im an NT with an undiagnosed AS BF, and an 18yo son for whom a diagnosis was never settled upon ... among the choices: AS, ODD, ADHD, depression, psychoses (at least they medicated the hell out of him for it). I'm a life-long depressive, diagnosed 10 years ago; possible ADD and/or bipolar.

Have worked at a library for many years, interested in art and design, reading (mostly fiction), psychology and the amazing dynamics of interpersonal relationships.

Very happy to have found WP, and thank everyone for their insights.

I'm pretty sure I'm NT with an Aspie son. He's nine and just got kicked out of public school last month. We're homeschooling now and I'm slowly getting my son back and he really is a cool guy.

We're still struggling with some meltdowns but they are easing up now that he's out of that school. He's always had trouble coping at school, but this last semester was the worst and I refused to let the school blame him for his condition.

As we develop routine and work on social issues, I hope we can back him off his medicine. He was initially dx four years ago with ADHD which worked for awhile, but there was just something else. The ASD dx has been great - we're learning how to talk with him, how to help him get through his days and keeping surprises to a minimum which really helps reduce the rages and tantrums. He's really starting to reach outside himself and gaining in confidence almost daily.

Hi, I'm NT (I think) with AS tendencies and an AS BF (if he hasn't given up on me).

Welcome
I am new to the forums Not sure what NT means but i have a son with AS, as far as i no i don't have As