How do I tell if a woman is checking me out?

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Gone are the days when friends and family teased me whenever they saw a woman staring at me out in the street. Either friends and family got tired of teasing me, women don't stare at me too much nowadays, or I don't hang out with friends and family as much as I used to. Regardless of what the case might be, how do I tell if a woman is checking me out? If I catch her looking in my direction more than one time, is it reasonable to assume there is a high likelihood she is interested?

No f*k that. When you see a girl you stare her ass down. if she looks back with some kind of inetrests...(its hard to tell)....then hey, maybe she is interested. ...If a girl is staring at you that you think is cute, then stare her ass down again. Always use the stare down technique.It makes them feel like a creep for staring at you. if she really likes you she will

SMILE!! !! !! !! !! !

or if she is shy she will

LOOK THE OTHER WAY REAL FAST lol.

there's not much to look at on a guy except maybe the way he dresses and how handsome he is. There is so much to look at on a woman, dont let me get started.

but i hope this technique works

It's really hard to tell when someone's checking you out. These days I often know when guys are checking me out because they sort of stare at me with this weird blank intense expression, and when I look at them they don't look away. I'm not sure what girls do when they check someone out though - maybe smile like jemir1234 said?

The fact that there's no certain way to tell, is the biggest problem for me, and probably alot of others. If a girl is smiling at me, I might catch on to the fact that she's interested. Then I second-guess myself, and am not so sure anymore. The problem is, that it's so hard getting up the courage to go talk to her, that I need to know for sure because I don't want to make an ass out of myself. It would be pretty awkward if she said "I don't know what you're talking about". If there was a way to know for certain, I would feel much more comfortable approaching someone.

Although, I still think that her "smiling and making eye contact" is the best indicator of interest.

They seem to do the opposite to what you'd expect.

You can't tell when a woman is checking you out. They generally have better peripheral vision than men, so they can do the "checking out" glance without us telling. Now if a woman is staring at you, look back. Smile, though not too much.

If a girl looks at my way I give her a exaggerated smile, since its in my personality - usually doesn't go over well.

Just the other day tho a older lady (in her 50's) .. (i'm mid 20's)... looked me all the way up and down as she walked past me and just said "hey"... Sort of obvious, I normally have it easy but I just don't like approaching women - I'd prefer it if they went after me, which may or may not happen.

No rush.

Don't use the stare down technique... women often find it intimidating. You can certainly look, and smile. If a man "stared" at me in that fashion, I'd probably think he was glaring, or planning on stalking me.

A woman who is checking you out will look at your face, and quickly glance down, flicking her gaze to your (ahem) nether regions, then back up again. She probably won't know she's doing it. She might also smile, then glance away, then look back again. If she's playing with her hair, or tilting her head to one side, that's a good sign too. This is NT's I'm talking about.

Um, yeah -- that staring them down thing is pretty much guaranteed to scare them off or make them very aware there is something wrong with your ability to relate to them. Playful eye contact is one thing -- staring them down and intimidating them is another. Honestly, jemir, no offense, but do you know what you are talking about at all? I don't think mad-dogging is a good start for budding romance.

The thing with women is that a lot of them are very subtle about when they are checking you out.

We should probably divide this into two phases --

1. Checking you out. At this point, she hasn't made a decision, but you popped up on her radar, and she wants to see what you are about. It doesn't mean she likes you, it just means she's evaluating you. Women will rarely sit and stare like guys (or jemir) do. Women do tend to have better peripheral vision than men, so they will instead pretend to look at something over to their left or right, and then use their peripheral vision to look at you. If they look at you at all, unless they are interested immediately, they will probably just glance quickly and then divert their eyes again. Because guys, and especially Aspie guys, are so bad at picking this up when it happens, we often don't realize that it is happening.

2. Expressing Interest. This is when she's made a decision that she'd like to know you better. It doesn't mean she wants you for sure, just that she's willing to "try on the shoes." She'll make eye contact fleetingly, smile, adjust her hair, find an excuse to be nearby, maybe even ask a conversation-starter question. She's giving you permission at this point to approach her. She might start asking a lot of questions to find out more about you as a person, what you do, what you are interested in, what your goals are, etc. -- she's evaluating your mental state, seeing if you are social enough for her, how confident you are, ect. At the very extreme end, if she does find that "the shoes fit," you might find her touching you or giving you her number, or even making an arrangement to meet you again.

The important thing about the above is that women are very seldom going to directly approach you or stare you down. There's a whole set of rules for them in approaching a guy to not look too forward or flirty, because they want to maintain their reputation with other women and not been seen as violating those rules. They also don't want to give the game away too soon, because they need some bargaining power early on in the relationship (they may very well lose that power once they give the guy "what he wants"), so they need to be sure it is worth it. There are a lot of books on this, I recommending reading about body language and flirting (wiki has great stuff too).

If you do find a girl who is way too forward, maintaining eye contact too much, being very touchy when she first meets you, beware. There are women who take advantage of their power and don't care about the social consequences -- they may be trying to sell you something, take advantage of you, or be mentally ill.