Callista wrote:
To an autistic person, socializing is like skydiving: It's exciting and scary, and because it's so intense, we can't just keep on doing it constantly.
well put.
i know i go through periods where i just can't talk to anyone. sometimes it's a mild depression, sometimes it's anxiety, sometimes it just is whatever it is. i don't answer the phone, i can't bring myself to email, i don't post online (i know, hard to believe).
i know most people don't "get" it so that's one reason i just don't try to have relationships.
you might try pinging him with an actual question, because what you posted above is just statements and he may not be feeling socially creative enough to formulate an appropriately interested response.
you don't have to jump to conclusions but a simple "haven't heard from you like usual, everything okay?"
then if he doesn't respond, he's either overloaded or yes, he's avoiding you (in my experience this IS one way guys "deal" with loss of interest).
if he doesn't respond then, you might want to let it go.
when i was young, i was pretty needy and drove guys away by pestering them. since then i've tended to err on the side of caution and wouldn't do anything at all that might be con strued as needy. now i'm kind of in a middle place, which is nice. so i don't mind making some effort, but if i make a step toward them and they don't step back, i don't continue.
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