Anyone 18+ and Never Kissed?

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This applies to me at 19, who else is in this situation? I feel that I'm genetically incapable of getting my first kiss in the same way I'm genetically incapable of changing my eye color. I don't even want to go to college anymore since I feel angry everytime I see a couple making out. Also the classes are useless.

I'd join the army so I wouldn't have to think about it, but I might be deployed and have no choice.

im 24 and never had a date. You shouldn't give up college just because you've never kissed someone. The army is a huge commitment to make when you are just trying to out run your problems.

Romance can be tough for aspies. While my best friend at the time was making out with girls all over the place (OK slight exaggeration) at 15, I had my first kiss at 18 in college. Take my advice and try not to rush into anything, because that first kiss was with an unbelievably manipulative woman, and I spent the next 5 years miserable in a relationship I couldn't figure out how to get out of.

I have a good friend who's a surgeon and is 33 years old and never had a date. She's attractive and very smart, but just isn't interested in dating. About me, I didn't get my first kiss till I was 21.

44, never dated and don't care to. I am asexual.

Haven't been on a date or been kissed.

I have been kissed on the lips only once, when I was 29. I have never "made out", or had a relationship that was not platonic. Now I have had offers from women willing to sleep with me so that I could experience sex just once, but it just doesn't seem right. I am not as interested in sex as I am in love, cuddling, etc. and sex without a relationship just seems too hollow and useless for me to do. As for dating experience, I have maybe had 5 dates my entire life and I am now 38. Part of this is my awkwardness and part of it is my lack of opportunities to be in situations I would feel comfortable in and have the opportunity to meet someone of the opposite sex I am compatible with. I don't like new situations and become very defensive and closed off when I am in them. Add to this that I can't really tell if someone is interested and you get the result that my life shows.

I'm 20 and i have never kissed with anyone, and i can't even give someone a hug so i need to work on that, and just the thought of sex/intercourse freaks me out, not because i'm immature but because its so difficult for me to have physical contact and well there's a lot of physical contact apparently with that :/

Never kissed, never dated and not likely to do either in the future. Physical and emotional closeness tends to freak me out and I just can't be bothered with it all.

I never kissed anyone until I was 19.. nearly 20!

I was 21 and it was a struggle then.

This is probably half the forum.

25 and kind of.

Its horrible, now I feel I never can. Like I put it off so long, that its just impossible now. Messes up all possible relationships that I just won't kiss them. They think you just don't like them.

Maybe I don't...

I too think that in these forums, a huge number of the folks here share your experience. I remember how it was back at school, everyone was having a girlfriend or boyfriend, but I didn't. Never understood why, what I did wrong or what the others did better than me, but it soon started to fade, as I was really ashamed of myself because I thought I wasn't normal (man, if only I knew back then I was right... it would have been so much different). I'm 7 years older than you, and nothing has changed. I can only say that at one point, you start to accept the things you can't change, instead of struggling while fighting against it. Don't do anything you might regret later! Just go on with your life, either you will find love some day (or it may find you), or you find your fullfillment elsewhere.

Boy can I ever relate. And then everyone telling you "oh, you just need more confidence!" as if that is going to solve all your problems.

Yes and I feel embarrassed about it, shouldn't really though I guess. Although on a slight tangent, I don't think I would like open mouthed kissing to be honest.