Signs a female aspie likes you?

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From other female aspies, what are your cues that you give when you like someone?

Long stares, hanging around a lot as though everytime you turn a corner, there she is!
If it's at work or school, you'll always get an extra pen or offers to bring you a cup of coffee,
offers to get you your notes or to tutor you. An aspie girl's small talk about the weather or a sale at Staples is her idea of love talk. She might get all dressed up but probably just for one day.
She tell you when a show about your favorite thing is on or if a book was written about a favorite hobby of yours....orrr...she'll just downright stalk you. It appears to be stalking but it really isn't. She just doesn't know how to get your attention. She'll get sexy just as a last ditch attempt. Most aspie girls are NOT happy to have to sink that low. If you think you have an aspie after you, don't let it go that far. It isn't fair. If you're really not interested, set her straight. Unlike an NT, she'll will indeed get lost and never bother you again.

-I look you in the eye for more than a fleeting second.
-I say your name, and not just to get your attention.
-I touch you in any non-accidental way (though this is unlikely even if I do like you).
-I stand or sit close to you.
-I contact you (text message, e-mail, etc).
-I invite you to do something, or suggest that we should.
-I give you things (this is a big one--I give people little things as a way of expressing affection, though not only romantic affection).
-I ask you about your interests.
-I tease you (also a big one--I only tease people I like).

Regarding RightGalaxy's post:
-I wouldn't offer to tutor someone I was romantically interested in for fear of seeming condescending.
-Talk about the weather is my idea of "something I am capable of making small talk about with an NT." Nothing love-like about it.
-I would not get sexy as a last ditch attempt. My last ditch attempt would be to invite you to do something. I would like to comment further on the "getting sexy" thing, but I'm not entirely sure what she means by this.

She's very shy and I can't tell

Aspies I would think would be more likely to do something special for you that they wouldn't just do for anyone else, or maybe give you some sort of present- for example some homemade treat they made. They would probably ask you for a favor or your opinion on a matter.

They would probably appear more nervous around you than they normally are. Eye contact is not a reliable indicator of interest in aspergers, but you could catch them looking at you while you are facing away from them. Involuntary actions like dilated pupils, a flushed face, and chest arousal would show that she has some hidden interest in you. If she is the only one laughing at your dumb jokes or comes to your defense then she probably likes you more than a friend. She will mimic your behavior- You turn and she'll turn to see what you are looking at, you stretch and she'll do something similar, etc.

What is chest arousal? You mean she rubs her chest or what?

I think the signs are completely dependent on the individual, unfortunately.

I guess it depends on whether she's wearing a bra or not...

[quote="Kaybee"]-I look you in the eye for more than a fleeting second.
-I say your name, and not just to get your attention.
-I touch you in any non-accidental way (though this is unlikely even if I do like you).
-I stand or sit close to you.
-I contact you (text message, e-mail, etc).
-I invite you to do something, or suggest that we should.
-I give you things (this is a big one--I give people little things as a way of expressing affection, though not only romantic affection).
-I ask you about your interests.
-I tease you (also a big one--I only tease people I like).

You and I seem to be a lot alike in the way we act around people in which we are interested- even though I'm male and your female. I'm very, very similar in every ways you describe here