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Forum: Work and finding a Job Topic: Is he trying to get me fired? |
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Posted: 01 Aug 2011, 5:38 am
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Replies: 14
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| I also have a co-worker as you describe Keanu. She annoys me everyday and starts arguments with everyone. I don't understand the comment about going out of your way to help him keep his job. Why don't you concentrate on your work instead of his work? Unless you are his supervisor, you really don't n... |
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: Why do WPers in relationships stop posting? |
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Posted: 31 Jul 2011, 9:20 am
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Replies: 78
Views: 8,494
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| I'm not a frequent poster, but in my case, it would be that I am spending more time with my partner than posting on WP or any other forum for that matter. Although I am in a relationship, I like to browse the forum from time to time to read about others' relationship issues hoping it will help me un... |
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Forum: Work and finding a Job Topic: Is he trying to get me fired? |
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Posted: 30 Jul 2011, 7:50 am
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Replies: 14
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| Sorry to be blunt here but it seems that you are enjoying the thought of having him fired. From what you have described, he does not appear to be a narcissist, he only has an annoying personality, and is probably clueless that he is annoying you (even after you tell him to leave you alone.) You shou... |
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: Infidelity Deception and Delusion in Relationship |
| FemmeFatale |
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Posted: 02 Jan 2011, 8:40 pm
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Replies: 91
Views: 12,543
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| [It reminds me of the way some alcoholics brag about the very habits that are destined to kill them. I guess I'm lucky that nobody's ever bragged about their affairs to me in that way. I might be sympathetic if they showed some kind of appreciation of the gravity of the situation, but otherwise I d... |
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: Infidelity Deception and Delusion in Relationship |
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Posted: 11 Dec 2010, 10:43 pm
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Replies: 91
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| Yes I'd say there was something corrupt going on with those people. I'm afraid I do tend to judge people who go that way, as they don't really fit into my world. If they're truly monogamous, why do they delight so much in playing on the boundary of fidelity? But I've known lots of people who aren't... |
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: Infidelity Deception and Delusion in Relationship |
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Posted: 30 Nov 2010, 8:35 pm
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Replies: 91
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| Sometimes, though, I think it's a bit like bullying - if they can't get a reaction they might get bored and give up. ...Though I remember the bullying (in childhood) in a different way. They didn't get bored. They beat me until I gave them a reaction - or until the police came...or I started bleedi... |
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: Infidelity Deception and Delusion in Relationship |
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Posted: 20 Nov 2010, 10:27 pm
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Replies: 91
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| I think that some people believe in "harmless flirting." I suppose they're all so confident about their relationships that they can't imagine it could possibly hurt. Either that or they can't resist the temptation to gratify their inappropriate desires. I wonder how they'd feel if they saw their pa... |
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: Infidelity Deception and Delusion in Relationship |
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Posted: 14 Nov 2010, 9:19 pm
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Replies: 91
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| It's been a week since I've been here... It would probably be easier to know what problems you're getting if you gave some detail about what exactly was being said. Sometimes our friends can be a bit too familiar or flirtatious and it becomes annoying. I have no interest in flirtations with anyone o... |
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: Infidelity Deception and Delusion in Relationship |
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Posted: 07 Nov 2010, 10:51 pm
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Replies: 91
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| Yes, time comes into it for me too. As a young teenager I was approached by a girl who asked me out. I blew her off quite unkindly, and then spent the rest of the week kicking myself and wondering why I'd rejected her. In those days all I wanted was a girlfriend, but even the answer to my prayers w... |
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: Infidelity Deception and Delusion in Relationship |
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Posted: 02 Nov 2010, 10:37 pm
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Replies: 91
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| I'm often loathe to interfere when friends seem about to risk too much....it probably has its roots in my reluctance to contradict, which I used to take to ridiculous extremes. These days I'm more likely to speak out if I think they're headed for a fall. In relationships, once they're well-establis... |
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: Infidelity Deception and Delusion in Relationship |
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Posted: 28 Oct 2010, 8:43 pm
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Replies: 91
Views: 12,543
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| [When she has an impulsive idea, she usually gets angry at me for raining on her parade, and will redouble her efforts to persuade me that she is right, finally resigning herself to the situation with (what looks to me like) resentment....I tend to respond by feeling guilty even when it's fairly cl... |
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: Is this an Aspie thing, or just me? |
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Posted: 26 Oct 2010, 8:49 pm
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Replies: 15
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| My pattern is exactly the same. I was going to comment that I wondered if age changed this pattern and then I saw your age in your profile. I am your age but I find that I was able to detach much easier when I was younger. However, I believe the shorter the relationship, the easier it is to detach ... |
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: Infidelity Deception and Delusion in Relationship |
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Posted: 26 Oct 2010, 8:30 pm
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Replies: 91
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| Yes, it might well be nothing to do with power plays at all. She can be remarkably impulsive and will take sweeping decisions without appearing to understand the consequences....which is a common Aspie trait. Also her difficulty in putting herself into my shoes (another common Aspie trait) would co... |
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: Infidelity Deception and Delusion in Relationship |
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Posted: 23 Oct 2010, 7:29 am
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Replies: 91
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| Strangely, when my partner phoned for the first time after that mysterious "suspension," she expressed a lot of concern over the fact that I'd recently cycled to my son's house, as if I were in some significant danger and should stop doing it. Don't know what that means, but I keep wondering if the... |
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: Infidelity Deception and Delusion in Relationship |
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Posted: 21 Oct 2010, 8:56 pm
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Replies: 91
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| [and she's certainly not used to looking at her feelings and experiences. Since her complaint about my ideas interfering with her sleep and job, I haven't felt much like bringing the matter up again. She had also cut off all communication with me for a week, apparently to protect herself from more ... |
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: Men: What do you expect of women in a relationship? |
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Posted: 16 Oct 2010, 4:26 pm
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Replies: 89
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| Chronos - This is a good idea for a discussion topic. I would also ask for those men who able to identify their needs and expectations in a relationship, if they are also willing to reciprocate those same needs and expectations if thejr partners had those expectations? In other words, if he requires... |
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