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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: Overpossessive BF.. Please tell me what to do |
| Lorann |
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Posted: 22 Jun 2012, 10:48 am
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Replies: 96
Views: 9,258
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| GET OUT NOW! Don't reply. Change your numbers or whatever you have to do to get away. Tell friends and family that the two of you are through. Stay away from him. Involve law enforcement if he continues to pursue you. My sister was killed in her home in front of her children by the man who 'loved' h... |
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: Confidence |
| Lorann |
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Posted: 21 Jun 2012, 11:54 am
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Replies: 51
Views: 4,781
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| WIKI TELLS US: Confidence is generally described as a state of being certain either that a hypothesis or prediction is correct or that a chosen course of action is the best or most effective. Self-confidence is having confidence in oneself. Arrogance or hubris in this comparison, is having unmerited... |
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: Advice on telling her I want a "love" relationship |
| Lorann |
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Posted: 21 Jun 2012, 11:46 am
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Replies: 30
Views: 3,634
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| Dude, One word: CHILL! Give the girl a chance - don't press. If she is interested and you don't give her space she is gonna run the other way. Trust me on this! (I have found that if a guy is too insistent/needful/pushy before we even go out, that is a major red flag!) Generally, girls like a guy wh... |
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: I wish I could say this to him |
| Lorann |
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Posted: 20 Jun 2012, 4:04 pm
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Replies: 40
Views: 4,216
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| [/quote]my moments of despondency and confusion are my issue. He didn't reach out and create them on purpose. I can't help being an NT, and used to NT relationships, plus I bring insecurities and old wounds of my own to the table, just like anyone else. [quote] Are we psychic sisters or what? My big... |
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Forum: The Haven Topic: I need to rant about my evil ex! |
| Lorann |
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Posted: 20 Jun 2012, 1:14 pm
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Replies: 21
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YAY for you BlueMax! enjoy  |
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: We still have trouble communicating!! ! |
| Lorann |
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Posted: 20 Jun 2012, 9:04 am
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Replies: 11
Views: 2,137
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| I just wanted to share that I have also tried to be a 'good NT GF' :) and am working on clear, concise communication. My challenge is that my Aspie has worked to become adept at reading/interpreting NT speak (non-direct, full of hints and innuendo) and now when I try to be direct he is 'reading' me ... |
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: I wish I could say this to him |
| Lorann |
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Posted: 20 Jun 2012, 8:55 am
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Replies: 40
Views: 4,216
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| I have been following this thread for a couple of reasons. I, too, have recently posted a 'help me' thread. (A Letter My Aspie Will Never Read) and was somewhat surprised by the wide gamut of responses. I was kinda shocked at how seemingly easily people could counsel me to just chuck it in! Rather t... |
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: A Letter My Aspie Will Never Read |
| Lorann |
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Posted: 19 Jun 2012, 9:57 am
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Replies: 14
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| 1000Knives, I should have provided more info :) We have both been married before and we each have kids almost as old as you ;) He has repeatedly spoken about 'when we live together' (as we both realize that we DON'T want to be married again - handfasted maybe). We both would love to 'grow old' toget... |
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: A Letter My Aspie Will Never Read |
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Posted: 19 Jun 2012, 8:59 am
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Replies: 14
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| Thanks for all the feedback. Putting this up was a huge step in that it forced me to recognize and admit that these are MY thoughts and feelings and that I need to OWN them. Again_with_this, you're right, I can't continue to 'suffer in not-very-silent silence' anymore. Last night I actually shared t... |
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: A Letter My Aspie Will Never Read |
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Posted: 18 Jun 2012, 4:52 pm
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Replies: 14
Views: 2,964
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| I’m tired. I’m tired of hoping, I’m tired of waiting, I’m tired of being misunderstood and misunderstanding. I’m tired of our main communications being electronic. I’m tired of feeling like a guest, an imposition, a task. I’m tired of our time together becoming less and less instead of us growing an... |
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: Friends don't like my boyfriend |
| Lorann |
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Posted: 13 Jun 2012, 2:08 pm
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Replies: 19
Views: 5,710
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| I've had a similar situation - when we first got together I didn't 'understand' some of his actions as I was seeing them through NT eyes. I would b*tch to my friend about his alleged actions only to realize later that they were just him being him, not him ignoring me... My friend was cautious with h... |
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: NT chooses AS |
| Lorann |
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Posted: 11 Jun 2012, 4:46 pm
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Replies: 25
Views: 3,648
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| Thank you all for providing me with insight :) I apologize if my "what I want to know is: are there other NT’s that CHOSE relationships with their Aspies?" quote caused confusion. I simply meant that the books I have read are about established relationships to which a dx is added. Ours has the dx al... |
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: Is this really too much to ask |
| Lorann |
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Posted: 08 Jun 2012, 4:53 pm
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Replies: 98
Views: 8,921
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| Roman, my apologies! I was using the collective "you" in regard to the comments you quoted and tried to direct my comments to you by using your username. I hope that you (Roman) do not think that I was using the you (collective) to indicate that all my comments were directed at you (Roman) |
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: Is this really too much to ask |
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Posted: 08 Jun 2012, 4:23 pm
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Replies: 98
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| OMG, to read this thread is like swimming in a tank of worms - it just gives me the heebies. You talk about women like they were commodities in the grocery! "I'll take a fat one, but not if she's too fat..." hunh? Forget trying to find a date/mate if that's your attitude. Any girl/woman is gonna see... |
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Forum: Parents' Discussion Topic: My son feels like a monster... :( |
| Lorann |
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Posted: 08 Jun 2012, 2:18 pm
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Replies: 21
Views: 5,855
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| Not knowing how old he is, it is hard to provide insight but one thing that may be helpful is knowing that there are successful adults on this forum that have gone through these types of issues and gotten past them. As these persons have shown, it is hard today and maybe tomorrow but the days to com... |
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: NT chooses AS |
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Posted: 08 Jun 2012, 1:01 pm
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Replies: 25
Views: 3,648
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| Mike_Br: I so totally know what you mean! And I recognize that there are gonna be those things that WILL NOT change EVER ;) I get that and I am willing to integrate them into "US". What I don't get is the authors who imply that I have to suck it up on EVERYthing to keep the peace. We have discussed ... |
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