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Forum: Work and finding a Job Topic: Back on the Job Hunt - Disclosure of AS? |
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Posted: 16 Apr 2013, 8:33 am
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Replies: 11
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| Here in the United States, the stigma of mental defect still permeates the air. I don't give a tinker's damn what the law says, as per HPPA, there's always some way of finding out someone's physical, mental and developmental conditions and using it AGAINST you. Precisely. And that's why I started w... |
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Forum: Women's Discussion Topic: IUDs? |
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Posted: 15 Apr 2013, 7:18 am
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Replies: 32
Views: 10,847
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| I used copper IUDs for several years. I can't report any problems. My periods were always heavy, but they didn't get any heavier than they already were with the IUD, either. Insertion and extraction weren't a problem. I know many women report problems with those procedures, supposedly especially nul... |
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Forum: Women's Discussion Topic: Does everyone in this thread hate being a woman? |
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Posted: 15 Apr 2013, 7:02 am
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Replies: 53
Views: 14,961
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| In response to the OP, as others have indicated, if you present as a woman, you're treated as a woman. No matter how you personally identify, that alone will present issues you will probably want to discuss with other people who present as female. Also: lesbians are women, transwomen are women, "but... |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: Invisible Aspies? |
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Posted: 15 Apr 2013, 6:41 am
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Replies: 30
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Anomiel wrote: http://finallyfeminism101.wordpress.com/2007/10/18/phmt-argument/ wrote: FAQ: What’s wrong with saying that things happen to men, too?
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I just wanted to say thank you for posting this. I'm extremely miffed that it needs to be said at all.
That was one of the best explanations that I think are available on the web. |
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Forum: In-Depth Adult Life Discussion Topic: Family Members Who Don't Believe Diagnosis |
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Posted: 14 Apr 2013, 6:05 am
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Replies: 45
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| I also have a family member who doesn't so much not believe me - he doesn't believe that ASD and high-functioning autism are a thing. He thinks the symptoms are nothing but behavioural traits that are developed in early childhood due to unfavourable circumstances. This way of thinking is frustrating... |
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Forum: Work and finding a Job Topic: Back on the Job Hunt - Disclosure of AS? |
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Posted: 14 Apr 2013, 5:50 am
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Replies: 11
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| As a disclaimer, I'm in Europe and conventions may differ. My first impulse would also be not to disclose. Because many people don't understand what these diagnoses really mean, because (unfortunately) the stigma may prevent you from being considered a viable candidate altogether, and because the ev... |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: Empathy myth |
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Posted: 14 Apr 2013, 5:14 am
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Replies: 82
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| On confusion: even clinicians no longer reliably understand the clinical meaning of empathy. Please note that empathising in its everyday, non-clinical meaning is still often a hurdle to diagnosis for many high-functioning autistic people because clinicians themselves think it means not being able t... |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: Empathy myth |
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Posted: 13 Apr 2013, 3:31 pm
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Replies: 82
Views: 6,937
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| No. I'm not confusing anything. I am merely making the distinction between how the words are commonly understood and what they may - or may not - mean in psychology and psychiatry. The problem is when the psychological and/or psychiatric meaning is lost when the words are used in everyday speech. Be... |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: Overzealous to please as overcompensating mechanism for ASD? |
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Posted: 13 Apr 2013, 3:26 pm
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Replies: 17
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| This is interesting. It reminds me of my father. I think I used to be that way, but I was exploited too much and eventually stopped. Currently, I navigate social situations mostly with the help (or crutch, depending on how you look at it) of politeness - until someone or the situation as a whole no ... |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: Empathy myth |
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Posted: 13 Apr 2013, 3:14 pm
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Replies: 82
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| I also scored at the low end (22) and I don't lack empathy, either. I am fairly certain, in fact, that I am more genuinely empathetic than many NTs in terms of understanding the suffering of others and feeling along with them. But as for "wheeling out the right response" (love that phrase), that's w... |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: Overprotective of pets |
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Posted: 12 Apr 2013, 1:37 pm
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Replies: 59
Views: 10,932
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| I'm careful and watchful with mine, but I wouldn't call it overprotective. I think I do worry a bit too much about them and I do need to rein myself in occasionally. Then again, my pets depend on me for their survival - food, cleanliness, vet care, and they can't just tell me if something is wrong. ... |
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Forum: Women's Discussion Topic: Do you want to have children? |
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Posted: 12 Apr 2013, 1:20 pm
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Replies: 88
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| No, I don't want to have children. I'm childfree. This is how I've always been, and I feel like it is unrelated to my autism, but essentially it doesn't matter. I'm not afraid of the responsibility, I just don't want it. I'm not afraid I would do a bad job as a parent, I just don't want to be one. N... |
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Forum: In-Depth Adult Life Discussion Topic: Do you look like a teenager? |
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Posted: 12 Apr 2013, 1:08 pm
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Replies: 261
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| No, I don't look like a teenager. I'm in my early 30s and I personally think I look exactly my age. It is other people who occasionally think I'm a bit younger, but it is rare that discussions about age come up. And since this isn't really something I've ever made the topic of conversation myself, I... |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: Why do people with aspergers like psychopaths? |
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Posted: 12 Apr 2013, 7:58 am
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Replies: 87
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| In response to the original poster: your total count is two people with AS who defend sociopaths, and so you conclude that all people with AS are fascinated with sociopathy and want to defend it? You need to expand your sample. And you need to expand it in a way that prevents self-selection. The way... |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: Do you have trouble with proper hygiene? |
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Posted: 12 Apr 2013, 7:00 am
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Replies: 30
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| I absolutely need to maintain good hygiene in order to function. I wouldn't be able to stand myself otherwise. And quite apart from the smell, greasy hair and oily skin also just feel horrible to me. I hate smells and scents - both the artificial ones that are supposed to be good, and the body odour... |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: Getting tested for aspergers? Is it worth it? |
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Posted: 12 Apr 2013, 6:36 am
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Replies: 15
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| Whether it would be helpful to you depends on you personally and your life, past and present. For me, at the time that I sought a diagnosis, it was important. I went in with relative certainty that I had AS or was high-functioning autistic (if you want to make the distinction, based on what I was to... |
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