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Forum: School and College Life Topic: Should I tell anyone that I have AS? (High School) |
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Posted: 14 Sep 2014, 6:30 am
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Replies: 6
Views: 9,064
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| Your English is perfectly clear, so no problems there. I'd advise keeping it to yourself, high school kids tend to use any kind of weakness they can find to mock and belittle their classmates. Standing out for any reason at all can make you a target, and an especially cruel bully could easily find o... |
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Forum: Art, Writing, and Music Topic: What songs speak to you the most? |
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Posted: 07 Sep 2014, 5:53 am
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Replies: 27
Views: 3,151
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| It's very rare that I'll read into lyrics in that way or that I'll find a protagonist that I can relate to, but Gave Up by Nine Inch Nails is the only one that comes to mind. After an abusive relationship and the subsequent years of avoiding relationships, most of the lyrics seem to fit well with wh... |
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Forum: LGBT Discussion Topic: Gay or bisexual homophobes? |
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Posted: 26 Aug 2014, 1:48 pm
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Replies: 10
Views: 1,686
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| According to Leviticus tattoos and piercings are just as sinful as homosexuality, but I doubt anyone will condemn you to hell for having an earring. No one gets to choose who they do our don't fall in love with, or even who they find attractive, so to condemn someone for that seems like the sinful t... |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: Not kowing having AS vs knowing |
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Posted: 23 Aug 2014, 11:39 am
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Replies: 11
Views: 1,552
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| For me, it was absolutely soul-crushing, I'm not sure how I'd approach trying to tell someone else. One aspect of the condition that I've seen others on here write about is going over past events that have confused or bewildered us previously, and realising that it was our own lack of understanding ... |
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Forum: Social Skills and Making Friends Topic: Crossing Cultural boundaries |
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Posted: 23 Aug 2014, 11:11 am
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Replies: 4
Views: 938
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| I can understand why you'd want to, but it always seems unusual when a stranger talks to you in public. At work or school it would be less unusual, seeing as you're around them regularly and it's a more welcome gesture that you're trying to get on with them. There's also a number of variations on th... |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: Getting my referral today! (Hopefully) Need help! |
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Posted: 19 Aug 2014, 11:42 am
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Replies: 3
Views: 608
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| I'm guessing you're in the UK, could someone talk me through this process? I tried going to my GP a while ago and just got given a phone number for an autism helpline, I'd really appreciate anyone's help in getting a diagnosis. |
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: People letting themselves go once in a relationship. |
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Posted: 15 Aug 2014, 3:04 pm
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Replies: 532
Views: 33,460
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| I really don't believe in the theory that it's some kind of plan on the woman's part to fool a man into being attracted to her so she can snare him and then stop caring about her appearance. It's possible that some people may feel that way, but overweight people already know they're overweight and (... |
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: People letting themselves go once in a relationship. |
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Posted: 15 Aug 2014, 3:00 pm
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Replies: 532
Views: 33,460
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| I really don't believe in the theory that it's some kind of plan on the woman's part to fool a man into being attracted to her so she can snare him and then stop caring about her appearance. It's possible that some people may feel that way, but overweight people already know they're overweight and (... |
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: People letting themselves go once in a relationship. |
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Posted: 15 Aug 2014, 2:59 pm
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Replies: 532
Views: 33,460
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| I really don't believe in the theory that it's some kind of plan on the woman's part to fool a man into being attracted to her so she can snare him and then stop caring about her appearance. It's possible that some people may feel that way, but overweight people already know they're overweight and (... |
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: People letting themselves go once in a relationship. |
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Posted: 15 Aug 2014, 9:47 am
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Replies: 532
Views: 33,460
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| It's not just women, everyone lets themselves go every once in a while for a variety of reasons and at certain points in life your metabolism slows down so it can creep up on anyone. It's not a new phenomenon that people worry about their appearance less when they're in a relationship, and the vast ... |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: excuses vs. explanations? |
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Posted: 14 Aug 2014, 10:40 am
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Replies: 16
Views: 1,279
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| To me, the difference between the two is accountability. If someone says "it's not my fault because...", they're making an excuse or trying to exclude themselves from the blame, whereas "I'm sorry, I didn't mean for that to happen, I think it was caused by..." is an explanation. I find an apology an... |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: Regarding addictions - Is anyone else like this? |
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Posted: 14 Aug 2014, 8:49 am
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Replies: 12
Views: 1,448
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| I'm the same, I currently smoke but when I've given up before it's been much easier than I was expecting. What keeps me coming back is that it's a perfect excuse to go outside and be on my own when I'm out with friends, and because all of the smokers at work get on and everyone ends up laughing when... |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: Things other aspies tend to do that you hate? |
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Posted: 13 Aug 2014, 1:25 pm
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Replies: 18
Views: 1,752
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| "Hate" is a strong word, but WP can be a difficult place to visit when a thread turns into a flame war, usually because someone has taken offence at another's comments and the offending party don't see anything wrong so it just descends into people trying to nitpick each others' arguments. |
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: Questioning your sexuality |
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Posted: 01 Aug 2014, 1:32 pm
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Replies: 11
Views: 2,210
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| I have done a few times, but it took "giving it a go" and failing at it to eradicate the last hint of curiosity about my own sexuality. I had a similar mindset to your own, but you can't change who you are, no matter how burnt-out you might be from failed attempts at dating. |
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: My thoughts on why you don't have a girlfriend. |
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Posted: 30 Jul 2014, 1:04 pm
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Replies: 94
Views: 8,352
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| You won't sound mean, there's no shortage of guys on here looking for a woman's perspective on what they're doing wrong or what they might have missed. It might take some careful language if you're worried about causing offence, but any extra help or information is always appreciated. |
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: My thoughts on why you don't have a girlfriend. |
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Posted: 30 Jul 2014, 12:33 pm
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Replies: 94
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| It's a nice little soundbite that fits the situation, but it's always going to be a lot more complicated than that. It does make sense, and it might even be good advice for someone newly-diagnosed, but if there is one main reason why someone with ASD is single it's unlikely to be that. Don't take th... |
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