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I don't really mess with online forums, and especially with people I don't know personally. (which I probably don't here as far as I know… but who knows.) I find reading peoples' patterns and communicating to them in person actually pretty easy now for the most part, and actually prefer it.
Forums for whatever reason make me way more squirrelly than just talking to someone on the street. They just don't feel natural to me. Anyone feel that?

But this forum at first glance looks kinda endearing to me. I know I saw this place years ago before. I like that new members are introducing themselves on here, and others are replying. That's nice to see!

I might be feeling something similar. It's why I ended up leaving a few proboards communities and discord. They just seem incredibly inauthentic to me. Most of the people talking feel like they're more performing, instead of just being truly themselves. I'm thinking I'm picking up on that personally, and it's throwing red flags haha. Here's hoping this space is different!

Nice to meet you!

I'm just lucky as hell to be finally meeting people in person these days, it changes the game for me. Can't speak at all for this forum, could be the best ever, always want to be open-minded with everything. Of course though, I'm speaking for just myself, everyone's different. The one thing I watch for with people the most, is if they're trying to take advantage, which is much harder to do imo on something like a forum, which tends to be safer in that regard.

Here's a thing too, if someone see's a new user, (including myself) they're automatically judged as potentially untrustworthy, or something, at least until they spend enough time around, and become part of the clique. With talking to people in person, I can prove myself instantly since I'm physically present. There's nothing to say I couldn't be some weirdo in a Guy Fawkes mask behind the keyboard with a secret plan to Dox everyone, because I can't be physically present to vibe with someone, and be like, "Hey dude, you can chill!"

Absolutely! You don't want to put yourself too out there. This is the internet after all, trust is something to be earned. That said, there's different levels of relationships. If you want online friends, then you inherently need to accept the physical distance, the abstraction of who the person seems to be to who they might actually be. If you make friends in person, it can both be easier yet harder in my experience. Easier because you physically get to see how they react to your responses, but more difficult because you need to be careful in guarding against responses that might've been too quick, not as thought out.

I'm guessing people are tuned to meet these moments differently. It's a spectrum!

Best of both worlds would be both, having an online friend, then maybe meeting up for something. One of my friends drove down to Tennessee for Bonnoroo, and stopped by peoples houses on the way, obviously having to be long distance with them.

But, meeting brand-new people from scratch is always hard, online, or in person... and I would still say in person tends to be harder even for me, just because it requires high performance.

This site seems like a good way to bring randoms together, too. Because unless I'm clueless, it seems to be geared to shared ND, and I'm sure there's lots to talk about. Online is probably safer I think, it's one thing to be harassed online, it's another to be victimized “in person”. From my own life experience, and the countless stories I heard from people I know, and even another friend with ASD, being taken advantage of is all too common, and I've found myself in bizarre situations before. So, balance is key.

Hello And Welcome to Wrong Planet , Backbonding pie . Hope you can find some threads,you might like to participate in or just Forums to read . And sometimes it can be slow on the Planet here , other times busy as can be . And you might be prepared, people here can be very Frank about their opinions. And some just wish to share . 98% polite 2% maybe not so . But mostly Good IMHO .Some just use it to sort Information.

Thanks, appreciate ya.

Welcome to WP! I hope you like it here; I know I do.

Yeah man, looks chill. Hopefully it can be a two-way street with me, mutual support and recovery.

Ahoy-hoy.

You have a good chance of finding others here that have gone through troubles comparable to the ones you face...but don't necessarily expect a reply that is both brilliant and rapid. Please be patient.

That might well be good advice for life in general.

Welcome to Wrong Planet!

I mean that mostly in myself too, I don't like just dumping my problems onto people, without first being the one who gives advice, or help in some way, even if that isn't always practical, or appropriate. Just my nature, I guess, and I know newcomers often need it. But I feel like I know the “game”.

Sorry if my response was too forward...

Welcome to wp and thank you for joining

Nah dude I don't think it was. I like being forward anyway, cuts through the drivel… within reason of course.