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So here I am, a married 37 year old Mom with a 7 year Aspie boy. I read EVERYTHING I can to further my understanding. When we first found out, I went to the library and took out over 30 books. Those were just the ones that I felt had more information than I was able to speed read through (talent of mine) while I was there, especially the technical brain study ones. I finished the ones I brought home in a little over a week. My family and I had many discussions since then about who in the family has Aspie/autism traits. So there's about 6 or so on my side of the family.
So the other day, I'm reading some posts on a FB group. I still can't remember exactly what it was that I read that got me started. I think it was something about how the NT's don't understand ANYTHING. I remember thinking that's not true, I understand A LOT! Okay, see where I'm going? All of a sudden it hit me like a freight train. I felt just like Leftyswin and his great title, "Sh*t! I think I have Autism"! For about an hour I just about couldn't function. I was pretty much terrified. That didn't last long, and then I realized how silly it was to be scared. Scared of what? I'm not dying, at least I don't think so. So the first thing I did was come here. And I was home.
Later that day I spoke to one of my sisters online and she said that she was just waiting for me to tell her this. I said what? You knew? Why didn't you tell me? She thought I knew and just didn't want to say. She said of course you understand your son. You speak the same language. Sometimes it's like twin talk.
Great, I said. I feel like I woke up and looked in the mirror and there is this third eye in the middle of my face! How did that get there? When did that get there? That's been there ALL ALONG? I've been using that for years? Why didn't anyone tell me? How could I have not noticed that thing? I'm reading the posts on here and I'm cracking up at my own stupidity. It's soooo clear that I can't imagine how I missed it. Well anyway, here I am. Thank you for being here everyone. I feel like I know some of you so well already. Everything makes sense now.

Welcome! I can definitely relate--diagnosed at 35. I don't have any kids so my journey was a little different, but the same kinds of response. Like I'd been wearing glasses with the wrong prescription for years and now, all of a sudden, it's like "Hey! I can see!"

Its strange finding out you have AS in your thirtys. I just hope to use the stuff I am learning to help my son navigate the world a little better than me.
Welcome, It's a BIG planet.
( I did the same thing with the AS books at the library after my son was diagnosed)

Yup. After realising that I may be an aspie I in turn realised that my son exhibits a large amount of aspie traits as well. I intend to read up further into the genetics of this condition asap just because its interesting. I always thought my problems must be environmentally based so I tried hard to give my kids a more stable atmosphere to grow up in. And I'm sure those environmental factors played a part. But now I wonder to what extent would it have mattered had I been in a stable situation all my life? Interesting to be sure.

lol...when you said you checked all those books out from the library, I was thinking... "uh oh...how am I going to break this to her without being a jerk..." I checked out all the books on body language and non-verbal communication when I was a teenager, because...um...yeah.

Welcome home!

A special welkome to WrongPlanet, with a K.

Mick Avory

Welcome greetings, fellow-traveler Fizzgiz, to the WP community.

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