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Are You Fun At Parties?
"YES, I like to think so!" 16%  16%  [ 3 ]
"NO, I tend to put my foot in it!" 16%  16%  [ 3 ]
"UNSURE, I can't really do parties!" 42%  42%  [ 8 ]
OTHER - please think out loud (if you'd like to) 26%  26%  [ 5 ]
Total votes : 19

MikeCheque
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11 Jun 2025, 1:38 pm

I am one of those people who only wants to attend a party if I have a role (DJ/MC/Promoter/Sound Engineer/Lighting Technician etc).
If not, I'd rather have my feet up with my cat, at least nowadays anyway!


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11 Jun 2025, 3:07 pm

No, I am not. But it seldom is due to me putting my foot into it. Rather I (including my foot) tend to stay off to the side and not get too involved. (Getting involved would be socializing and I'm an Aspie...my socializing circuits don't work too well.)


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11 Jun 2025, 4:23 pm

I don't attend many parties, and the ones I do may qualify more as seeing/visiting family.



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12 Jun 2025, 11:24 pm

MikeCheque wrote:
I am one of those people who only wants to attend a party if I have a role (DJ/MC/Promoter/Sound Engineer/Lighting Technician etc).
If not, I'd rather have my feet up with my cat, at least nowadays anyway!


If it's a party that isn't horribly overstimulating, I've been told I'm funny. But generally, I avoid what is usually an awful experience unless it is on a small scale with close friends.



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13 Jun 2025, 12:08 am

Other. No, I'm not fun as parties. In fact, I'm certain I'm the death of the party. But it's not because "I put my foot in it." Its mostly just because I can't relax. I don't like large groups of people, loud noise or flashing lights. I don't drink and I hate being around people that are drinking. All the energy and extroversion just exhausts me and gives me a migraine. So, definitely not an environment I could have fun in. I try to avoid parties when at all possible. If I have to attend one for some reason I mostly just keep to myself or stick with the person I went with in the quietest, least populated area available and leave as soon as that's an option.
The closest thing to a "party" that I actually enjoy is more just hanging out with my sibling and a couple of their friends playing video games or watching a movie on dvd.



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13 Jun 2025, 1:04 am

All,

My pov here is that we can be but it takes a whole bunch of energy. I.e. it does not 'flow' naturally.
And requires a lot of mental compensation to address/compensate for the sensory overload.
But even this, if played right, can be 'fun', quirky, ... socially acceptable...
So yes, but I compare it to the question for NT peers: "Are you fun at when competing in a final at the Olympics?"

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13 Jun 2025, 1:23 am

Depends what party,

I don't dance, don't drink to excess and generally don't socialise with inebriated persons. So I'm not good for that kind of party.

If its a formal dinner party, then I try to practice polite chit chat and try to make people laugh, it usually goes well, at least I have fun.
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A lan party is my kinda party, up all night fueled by mountain dew and doritos, getting energy from each game boss we slay. :wink:


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17 Jun 2025, 5:51 am

Unsure.


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20 Jun 2025, 11:13 pm

I am hiding in a corner petting the cat and planning my exit



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23 Jun 2025, 5:43 am

No. I have fulfilled my obligations and said hello to the requisite people. I have found the quietest spot I could and am reading. I am not "a fun person." Depart, and turn the music down. No, I don't desperately need to talk to someone/ a girlfriend. Thanks.



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23 Jun 2025, 3:22 pm

Not really. I don't drink alcohol either, so that makes me even more boring. But if I know a lot of people fairly well then I can get engaged in social chitchat around a table. I do enjoy socialising but I can be shy too. Also my hearing isn't brilliant for my age so I can't always hear people speaking unless they're next to me, and because I have a quiet voice they can't always hear me, so sometimes I go quiet.


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23 Jun 2025, 4:09 pm

Depends on the sort of party.


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25 Jun 2025, 12:55 pm

What's a party? :P



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25 Jun 2025, 7:22 pm

lostonearth35 wrote:
What's a party? :P


A group of adventurers who are participating in a quest. :nerdy:


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26 Jun 2025, 2:39 pm

It depends what kind of party. If it's just people socialising and drinking at someone's house I usually find a pet and spend time with the pet. I went to a party at someone's house where there was a bonfire outside. I enjoyed sitting by the fire, staring at the flames and talking with one person at a time or listening to others talk.
If there's music that I like and I can dance all night, I will do that.


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02 Aug 2025, 2:33 pm

I like parties usually. I like the food, I like disco lights, music if its not too loud, I like smoke machines and strobe lights but I don't go to them often.


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