What university would an Aspie most likely get a girlfriend?

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What university would an Aspie most likely get a girlfriend? In otherwords, be socially accepted to the point where you get yes from prospective women?

University of Chicago? MIT? Saint John's Great Books College? An ITT school?

Hmm I guess its not that easy. I felt rejected by what 99% of people would call
rejects so I'm not an expert on this. First pick a school with a very high female to male
ratio. You got to meet the girls first. I say 50% of the girls I meet were in my classes
25% though friends and 25% though school organization/events. Oh a co-ed dorm is
good to I meet some females I did thats way to. Maybe some major will have more non-NT like science/math/computers/art/music be sure your taking classes in all them and going to every organization/event they hold.

Go to Arizona State, San Diego State, UC Santa Barbara or UC Irvine. They are known for it's party-ish atmosphere.

None of the above. I think an Aspie would be most likely to get a girlfriend in art school. In art school, being oddly different from other people is seen as an artistic statement, not a flaw.

At M.I.T. there will be plenty of other Aspie men and probably some Aspie women too. But there will be some very fierce competition for those women. Same deal in an ITT school.

Or you could go to a school that includes a reputable art school and take your tech classes in one department and try to meet women from the art department. It's really only in the art department that weird=cool.

Well, the objective way to go about this is ratio. Here it's 70% female so that is probably a factor.

A high female ratio definitely will help your odds, but I would also try to find something with a slight party atmosphere. Girls that are too serious studying are hard to date. Good luck.

I'd agree about MIT: even if the myth that MIT students are so socially inept they need a social skills class (I don't believe this: read the article and you'll see it's really a business/professional skills class) is true, I'd imagine that simply because you're a girl who studies engineering or computer science, you could have your pick from any of the hundreds of guys who are after you.

But then, I'm skeptical about art school as well. The idea of being "different" is far more homogenized than you'd imagine. I took an art class and it was all preppy girls listening to Lady Gaga on their hundred-dollar audiophile-quality headphones. I'm certain it'd be different if you actually won the chance to get to know them, but it seemed like they could all be the same person to me.

And then, if you're at a party school, I think you'd wonder where the intellectual content is, and even if there were fifty girls all over you, you would be unable to connect to them.

Unfortunately, I don't have an answer. Just objections. In the end, I think that as an Aspie, you've the same approximate chance of getting a girlfriend at most universities. Which is quite low, unfortunately.

Is that really a good idea? Aspies aren't renowned for their party-going tendencies.

I'd suggest trying to find a university with a high female to male ratio, preferably a place with an emphasis on technical subjects because it means you're more likely to find a girl who'll think in a similar way or have similar interests. That's assuming that you don't have a special interest that would be useful for meeting people, in which case go to a university that is likely to have groups for that activity.

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Just go to a university for what you want to pursue a career/goal in, not for getting a gf. Depending on your "degree" of "Aspie-ness", you might be able to get a gf easier than you thought. Unfortunately, the world is not a Sadie Hawkins Dance In other words, it is WAY more likely that a guy will ask a girl out than the other way around. I know you're probably nervous about something like that, but just do it anyway if you really want someone, and if you don't, then don't bother it's fine.

Bottom line is, as long as you're "normal" (for lack of a better term) enough to blend in with a crowd of non-diagnosed/non-Aspie college students, then don't sweat it. Remember you'll have to kiss a thousand frogs before you get your prince...ess BTW, I know plenty of Aspies that have the ability to be "normal" when they want to (I'm one of 'em...well sometimes I am, I'm working on it ) Hope all that helped!