Should people with disabilities have children?

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I wish they wouldn't. Most of the time children are born out of desperation to save a relationship or the ever so selfish wanting to continue a bloodline / 'have something that is theirs'. I'm sure there are children born out of a genuine love but even those are often tossed aside once they become their own people.

Non-disabled people can barely raise kids, and someone who requires a lot of care would basically fail on their own. It takes a lot of people to raise a child, even more so for a disabled parent.

My bio parents are mentally ill and one is physically disabled as well. I was cared for mainly by my grandparents, that included child care, school, food, housing because my bio parents weren't capable of providing those things due to their disabilities. I inherited their disabilities and as you can imagine, I require to be cared for as well.

I would love to care for children, but I know that it is impossible and irresponsible of me to try and achieve that.

So I don't believe in the idea that someone, disabled or not, "deserves" a child.

A lot of disabilities are beneficial to society. Autism is a prime example of that. The human race thrives on diversity.

I don't think it's responsible to have children unless a couple is prepared cognitively, emotionally and financially to invest as much as is needed in the child's upbringing, give the child a good childhood, and provide scaffolding, guidance and mentorship in order for that child to have solid ground for succeeding in all important domains in adulthood.

I think parents should think deeply about what the child will need at all stages of life, and be ready and willing to prioritise the child's needs above their own, constantly thinking about how the present moment is contributing to the child's future well-being.

If prospective parents lack the means to give a child a good, enjoyable, well-scaffolded life where their childhood is positive and they're well-equipped to succeed in adulthood, whether it's because of disability or not, I don't think that couple should have children.