How do you control your child's obsessive interest.

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29 Nov 2006, 11:27 pm

Part of the reason that I've moved out, was so that I can nourish my Routemaster obsession with all my shiney, little red Heart. I've moved out for many other reasons, as well. It's nice to be able to cry over the loss of my red "friend", when my emotions become too much for me to handle. I can also create as many pictures of my "friend", as I wish, without getting sarcastically asked how many pictures of one thing, I need to draw. I can be who I truly am, at this moment, because I'm living on my own. This is more than I could say, two months ago.

I will annoy the cold NTs in my life, no more. :jester:



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30 Nov 2006, 12:34 am

walk-in-the-rain wrote:
I take this as her son is literally obsessed with bothering other people or pressing their buttons - not that his obsession is annoying TO other people. Until that point is clarified and other information is given it is hard to decipher.

That being said if it is a scenario like this - little brother with ASD KNOWS that doing "blank" will make older NT sister scream and he ENJOYS that and seems to focus on wanting that reaction all the time - then this is "typical" little brother/kid behavior with a ASD spin. People also have to remember that those on the spectrum have typical behaviors too - and not simply everything needs to be explained away or due to the ASD. Now understanding why this is wrong or refocusing behavior can be much more difficult because the child may enjoy the interaction and not realize how much they are bothering the other person. That is where the ASD comes into play more. Also depending on how limited their interactions are this may seem like play to them because they are provoking some sort of response from the person where they otherwise might just be ignored.


This is one of the toughest lessons of social behaviour I've been forced to learn myself. I can happily chit-chat with my son about things during school, but when it comes to keeping his room tidyed up, i simply lock up. And it's a darn struggle to release the tidying loop. Recently I've been forced to let go, both by my daughter and my ex, and allow a level of pollution. It's damn hard to follow that scheme, not being able to coop with a spot in the sink even. It's just my social adaptation that is working 24/7.

It's a pain. Bit O can't let it go. I have to check out a clean house.



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02 Dec 2006, 11:18 am

CockneyRebel, is Routemaster a computer programme about trains? I have a friend who spends most of his day doing train simulations on the computer and wonder if it were the same kind of thing to what you do.

He doesn't like being disturbed from his train simulations.

I suspect he might have Aspie and/or ADHD tendencies. His wife complains about his behaviour eg. how he gives cheek to visitors and doesn't like getting up to do things for her (she is wheelchair bound). I find him okay to talk to and don't mind if he talks at length about his interests but it bothers the other people in his life.


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02 Dec 2006, 11:32 am

A Routemaster is a vintage Double Decker Bus.



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02 Dec 2006, 11:35 am

Ah, I see. I think it looks really cool! We don't have those kinds of buses here. :(


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22 Dec 2006, 8:51 pm

My parents never tried to control my "special intrests". My mom has been homeschooling me since fith grade and once she thought she could sue computer time as a payment for coorapting during school hours. I got half an hour's worth of coumputer time for an hour of work :? It only lasted for about a couple of months because I would go into panic attacks about not being able to finsish my creations on the computer (I do art and make video games) and would keep resetting the timer when she wasn't looking. :twisted:

I also liked Lion King a lot when I was little. Okay a little bit more than "a lot". I don't even fit in with other so called Lion King fans. I consider myself more than a fan. I used to carry a stuffed Timon and Pumbaa around with me everywhere when I was little. I would have fits and panic attacks if they were lost. My school bus driver pulled a really stupid stunt by trying to take them away from me forever. I didn't give into him and he got so mad he stoped the bus for over an hour thinking he could intimate me into handing them over. Naturaly he didn't. I think he got repremanded because they were written into the IEP.

My parents even left some phycologsts because they did not agree with them about taking my "obsession" away.

Some "obsessions" I don't even tell people about.

I'm surprized my mother's hair has not turned grey from my constant blabbing about my custom My Little Ponies.