Talking to NT gamers

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The other day I talked to some girl in my Calculus class at college about League of Legends, as she was talking to someone else about her ranking in the new division system and I saw a chance to butt in, but she seemed to lose interest once I started getting into the conversation (I'm an incredibly veteran player of it). By no means did I start a monologue about the game, but I guess it sometimes puts an NT off when you try to start up a conversation about something you're passionate about without getting to know them well first. This is not the first time something like this has happened to me, either.

Anyone else run into situations like that, where it seems like the conversation shouldn't have ended, but it did because of some inexplicable lack of interest from the other party?

... Are you asking aspies this? Yes. Yes I have.
And sorry that happened to you, hopefully you'll have better conversations in the future.

Is this a dumb question? I don't think it is because I really do mean inexplicable. I'm fairly adept at understanding context and "reading" people at a basic level.

Anyways, I think we all hope we could have better conversations about the things we like.

Last edited by TheBraveSirRobin on 07 May 2013, 3:57 am, edited 1 time in total.

It was a joke. I don't think it is a dumb question, and it deserves to be talked about... Was more meant as a reminder that you are not alone here.

I thought you were being dismissive with your joke, my mistake. Thanks for the company, though.

I was too flippant, my mistake. Anyway, it's so strange how NTs can't communicate with aspies either but the blame usually gets put on aspies. Not saying that was your fault in any way, I mean in general. They should take social skills classes too
I think that kind of thing happen often when one part knows a lot more than the other in conversations, though.

With a passionate or a disinterested Aspie involved, it's hard for one side of a conversation to not have a knowledge disparity, which only makes the problem worse. NT people actually know moderation in their interests, which is something that I can have trouble with.

The thing is, it's not all about knowledge disparities, as the person I was talking to probably knew as much as me about the game, but I guess it was the "vibe" I gave off. Just a little too much and just a little too fast, I suppose.

Now, being moderate with my interests? Of all the things I've read and heard, that concept is truly foreign. Just kidding, but I really don't moderate my interests at all. Why do you think I'm at this website in the first place?

Veteran player or no, resist the urge to butt in. A lot of times, people just want to have a private conversation with their friends. Unless someone invites you in, or you're very, very good at inserting yourself in tactfully, you'll make enemies trying to butt in.

For information's sake, the way I'd have approached that was to wait a moment for a break in the conversation, say "Excuse me, guys, are you all talking about LoL?" and if they seem receptive, say "I'd like to ask your advice on something," and invent something. It doesn't matter if you're the LoL guru, better to ask for advice than give it.

I think she just wanted to talk to the other person without anyone else getting in between. Maybe it was one of her best friends and didn't want some "stranger" (I'm not sure how well you know her) to join the conversation.