Why do people cry when someone dies?

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My grandmother died when I was ten, and I didn't feel sad at all. I didn't even miss her or wish she hadn't died. I used to see her about once a week, and the last year of her life she was ill and in a very poor-quality nursing home. It smelled of urine everywhere, and dementia patients wandered the halls yelling. She had to share a room with three other people, one of whom had been in a concentration camp and thought she still was. When she died (in her eighties) I was just glad I wouldn't have to go back there anymore.
It bothers me that I was so heartless about her passing, especially since ten isn't THAT young. I think it may have had something to do with Asperger's, but I'm not sure.
My guinea pig died the same year, and I was distraught.

I haven't cried at funerals. I didn't cry when my other cat died (when my current one does, I surely will).

I think... I imagine its the permanent loss. You cannot pretend you will call them tommorow, or that you may run into them at the mall. It is a far more final farewell than any other we could possibly know. Even if someone moves away -to another country or continent- we imagine we might *MIGHT* see or talk to them again. Yet this... we can't pretend we believe we'll hear their voice, or smell their skin, ever ever again.

I do wonder to some extent why those who believe in heaven cry at funerals (unless they think their beloved is going to the other place).