People who mock the difficulties of others

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Maybe I'm just being stunned but I can't tell if you're being sarcastic or not

no I actually did not think most humans enjoyed the suffering of others...for serious.

Schadenfreude, joy in the suffering of others. When most people see someone doing worse for them, it makes them feel superior and therefore better about themselves.

Schadenfreude, joy in the suffering of others. When most people see someone doing worse for them, it makes them feel superior and therefore better about themselves.

That is my hobby. I delight and rejoice in the downfall of my enemies.

ruveyn

I don't think it's complaining thats the problem, so much as it's constant complaining. When someone has a truly valid complaint, or a real problem, or is having a bad time, that's completely understandable. What becomes annoying is when someone constantly complains about every single thing and nothing is ever good or good enough, in fact it's horrible, they are out to get me, oh no, is when it starts getting on people's nerves.

Most people will sympathise with someone who occasionally complains. Everyone occasionally complains. It's the people who do it constantly that bother me. Nobody wants to be around that kind of negativity. When people constantly complain, then others back off and stay away from them, they see that as proof that they aren't liked so therefore their complaints are true, when in fact it's their constant complaining that drives others away.

Those kind of people, you can't even have a conversation with. If you tell them something good that happened to you, they just start about how "oh, that never happens to me, poor me, yaddah yaddah" instead of saying something nice. If you do something nice for them it becomes "Yeah well, you did this but I still don't have this or that or the other thing" and on and on. It drives people away. My mother is like this. Thats why nobody really goes to see her or does anything for her. Let her sit there and hate everyone and feel persecuted alone.

That is my hobby. I delight and rejoice in the downfall of my enemies.

ruveyn

Do I want to know who your enemies are?

What about when people complain about real problems which have existed for decades and still go unresolved, such as WHY THE HECK AREN'T WE ON MARS BY NOW? and such of that sort? We had the technology to go since the Saturn V was made, essentially, and the chemistry necessary to utilize the Martian atmosphere and hydrogen from the water in the regolith has been around since the 1800's. We don't need to sit around anymore, we can go there and yet we just don't.

I don't think it's complaining thats the problem, so much as it's constant complaining. When someone has a truly valid complaint, or a real problem, or is having a bad time, that's completely understandable. What becomes annoying is when someone constantly complains about every single thing and nothing is ever good or good enough, in fact it's horrible, they are out to get me, oh no, is when it starts getting on people's nerves.

Most people will sympathise with someone who occasionally complains. Everyone occasionally complains. It's the people who do it constantly that bother me. Nobody wants to be around that kind of negativity. When people constantly complain, then others back off and stay away from them, they see that as proof that they aren't liked so therefore their complaints are true, when in fact it's their constant complaining that drives others away.

Those kind of people, you can't even have a conversation with. If you tell them something good that happened to you, they just start about how "oh, that never happens to me, poor me, yaddah yaddah" instead of saying something nice. If you do something nice for them it becomes "Yeah well, you did this but I still don't have this or that or the other thing" and on and on. It drives people away. My mother is like this. Thats why nobody really goes to see her or does anything for her. Let her sit there and hate everyone and feel persecuted alone.

That is my hobby. I delight and rejoice in the downfall of my enemies.

ruveyn

There are difficulties and difficulties.

Just saying... the suck it up quote you posted actually is appropriate in some cases. I have no idea of the context in which you received it. But sometimes a whiny really needs to hear that he should stop complaining and face his issues directly instead of making up excuses. Sometimes, that's the most helpful thing the complainer can get.

There are times in which the complaint is legitimate. But with time, I am starting to feel that they are the minority.

X2, especially on the self fulfilling prophecy angle. My AS meetup group was actually formed because of a shared bad experience between me and the other founders of another meeting where two people would dominate the entire meeting with "woe is me" stories and even hijack other people's experiences to insert their own negative spin on them. It's very tough to deal with, and does tend to drive people physically away.

Hmm maybe someone needs to write a legitimate complaints manual so no one expresses any non-legitimate complaints, now who gets to decide what complaints are legitimate and which ones aren't?