I feel useless.

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No don't worry I understand exactly how you feel. I have a parent who is very possessive, so this parent makes me feel like dirt, just so that I don't feel confident enough to leave. And you may be right, your home as mine, is keeping us from growing and we seem miles behind others. But you can't focus on the things you can't do. Focus on the things you can do, and the things like your degree, which will hopefully lead to a more independent life, not right now, but in time. I have so much catching up to do but I have to start somewhere and to try and make myself believe that I can accomplish things thus all the things which my home life denies, can't be focused on. You need to look ahead and focus on the things which will hopefully get you where you want to be. If driving is one of those things, then look somewhere else other than your mother. And that goes for anything else you feel you want to do which will help you grow.


I completely empathise with you. Having this type of parent is tough.

My mother was also like that. She never showed any appreciation for the things I did. It is hard living like that. But you can be assured that if you work hard you will find other people in the world who will recognize what you do (friends and also relatives). That may boost your self-confidence and self-love. Well I don´t know if that will help you but it was like that to me. And I also don´t think that your mother has the right to tell you how well you have to perform in academics as long as you pass. It is up to you to decide how much effort you will put on college. Maybe you should tell that to her. Ah and gaining weight with anti-depressants is awful! I was on 450 mg of Effexor which is the maximum dose. But there are some anti-depressants that do not cause weight gain like Lexapro.