What is wrong with people?

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I hope it isn't anxiety or agony. I love Jackie.

I've never given anyone the silent treatment when I've been angry at them, it's impolite. It's like saying hello, even if it's not said back I'm not going to let people make me uncivil just because they lack manners.

Blarg ignore my post on the first page, I thought this was a general topic not about a very personal issue...so my post might not be sensitive to the fact it is personal rather than a general post about the negative state of society.

When someone has hurt me or gotten me upset, I just can't look at them or even talk to them and even deal with them. It does speed things up if they apologize but it doesn't make me want to speak to them again right away. I never saw this as manipulation or as a form of bullying. I read it's also a form of bullying. My grandfather does this a lot if you have made him mad and then he gets over it but it can take days. My mom looks at it as at least he isn't hitting anyone like he used to so a silent treatment is better. It's hard to face the person who has gotten mad at you or has hurt you. Then it's always confusing when they act like nothing has happened and you are still upset about it and it's even more hurtful when they don't knowledge it. It's like they don't care so why are you even dealing with these people? Is this a narcissist trait I have or is it none narcissist?

My ex ignored me too and then he came back twice and then was silent again. I moved on and don't need someone like him in my life. He was also a narcissist.

What?

Sorry about that

It seems like it, at least with Jackie and a few other people who I thought were friends before they stopped acting like friends. It does suck that it seems like you have people who would be noble treated as if they are "naïve" until they don't care anymore and others who act like everything is some stupid game rather than real life where people actually get hurt. It's even worse when such people know it and sadistically enjoy how they hurt others and make them suffer. It almost is enough to prove the existence of demons.



What about the "for as long as we both shall live"/"unto death do we part" vows? Are they just poetry? If someone commits actual adultery, rather than imaginary "heart adultery", such is Biblically a capital crime. Maybe such scum should be executed, along with people who sexually abuse children. If they treat you abusively, maybe they should be publicly flogged until they get the notion that it's wrong to hurt women through their thick skulls.



It's been a slow process of boiling a frog.



Picking and choosing is often what happens, but that's why there are doctrines such as "sola scriptura" and such. The one that I found annoying when I tried to be a vegetarian is people pretending that it's some sort of sacrament to eat bacon. I can't afford to be a vegetarian anymore, but I wish I could - though I don't miss people picking Genesis 9 and saying, "see we're meant to eat animals". Biblically we have permission to, but the original design is Genesis 1:29-31 and as per Isaiah 11 and 65 and Revelation 21:4ish I think the world to come is going to go back to the original design. Having permission to do something is far from that something being considered proper. Like with divorce, Jesus said "it's for the hardness of your hearts Moses wrote you that, but from the beginning it was not so. ... what was two is now one, so let no one separate what God has put together."

Well, that's rude. Are you someone I know or do you just think you know me?

Yeah, it's one thing when you don't have to worry about anything versus living from paycheck to paycheck and going without food a couple days each week.

Perhaps not. It still is really annoying though, isn't it? Especially when people know it's something you hate and do it to you intentionally.

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I only have two hours for internet at the library, so it tends to log me off regardless of whether or not I want to stay online. Also, it's an hour to walk to the library from home. I didn't mean to ignore you, so sorry about that.

I can understand that, I try not to say anything when I'm angry because I don't want to hurt feelings with sharp words, but I make an effort to communicate and try to get past my anger since emotions are temporary chemical reactions within my own mind. If you're not doing it intentionally, then it can't be bullying, by default, but if a person does do it intentionally know that it hurts someone, then it is. I think so anyway.

I don't really see substitution of bad behaviors as being perfect. It is better to be silent than to be violent, of course, but hurting a person emotionally is painful too.

I don't know enough about narcissism to answer that. I think it's confusing when people don't behave like you think they will, so maybe that is all that is. I don't know.

It's wrong to hurt anyone, and I would advise stop taking the Bible so literally, it's fundamentalism when you do it, no matter the religion (if you take the book word for word). Also, killing someone for divorce is an insane idea and relating it to child abuse is something I cannot understand.

Plus, divorce is not something strictly for marriages with religion.

Well, for me I'd be glad if Jackie would come back once and didn't abandon me again. I have no idea how I'd be able to convince her to return and love me again, but I don't really want anyone other than her. It's easy for me to, annoyingly develop crushes/Aspie-fixations-on-people, but Jackie is the only one who has ever loved me back and I've never wanted anyone other than her. I've wanted to know for sure that one of the things the person who fired and sued her for was false (they didn't have proof for court, but that doesn't mean anything other than the legal system can be faulty [punishing the innocent and acquitting the guilty, for instance] at times), but apart from that and a few whiny complains about my "having to do all the housework" and my "working every single day in a row for two years while she didn't" and so much about the My Little Pony merchandise that she had me buy her while I was paying for what she did, apart from that, I still want to be married to the lady I first married. I wish I could figure out what was wrong and fix it, but I really just want her back. She didn't used to be like she was for the last two years. Right before she was fired and sued, we were both working and everything was finally getting better. Then she got fired and sued and she couldn't work with children until her probation ended. Then, within the month her probation ended, she said she was going to be babysitting for her brother and be back the next day after she was done, but she didn't return and I've had to live in an RV and walk everywhere since while she lives with her brother and raises his two little boys.

I don't think you're reading what I said. Adultery is a capital crime, not divorce. Divorce is something which shouldn't exist, but it does as only a concession for the hardness of hearts.