Does anyone else feel like leaving WP sometimes?

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13 Jan 2008, 1:09 am

Not really. I have met a lot of nice people here, and some of them have been truly there for me in various crisis over the past three years. I get free tech assistance with my computer glitches, can bounce weird Aspie ideas off other Aspies, etc., exchange recipes and stories. Also, because of WP, I have started to reach out to other people IRL. I have found that NT's also suffer from social phobia, shyness, and anxiety, albeit for different reasons that I do. But it all adds up to pretty much the same thing. I now have an NT friend who wants to take walks with me, and another friend who is Aspie, who wants to do stuff, too.


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13 Jan 2008, 3:13 am

People both online and offline just make me mad. They're nothing more than obstacles who need to make a hole.

WP in particular has been getting annoying, as the people who I thought would show me courtesy for using the forums as I choose (sparingly, of course) judge me as friend or nuisance based on my post count.

Who needs people when I'm buying a motorcycle and hitting the dirt this week?


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13 Jan 2008, 10:11 am

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I would like to release myself from my long-time fixation on something I am not even diagnosed with....and computers in general...I would like a more healthy..detached relationship with them....I could be using all this time much more productivly.... :P


Thats a good idea, just try and find something you can do that dosen't involve the computer, and maybe involves the fresh air :)



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13 Jan 2008, 10:20 am

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Good for you, ben. Action is always better than talk.

I found some of the comments rather mean though!

To those of you that don't like the people who make long ranty posts and are depressed - isn't this forum for everyone? You can be depressed or verbose and still on the autism spectrum.

Tim, that seemed sort of mean coming from you. You are obviously a high functioning Aspie and it's great that you have goals, but I'm sure that not everyone here wants to "sit around and play video games all day".

I suspect that I am NOT autistic and am at worst a high-functioning Aspie, but I struggle with a lot of issues that people with autism disorders do. I make long winded posts and suffer from depression.....am I unwelcome here?


I can't help being depressed, i'm fighting against it all the time. If people are making comments who don't suffer with depression, you should probably be careful what you say. You're very lucky not to experience it. I'm not the sort of person to sit and play the computer all day, quite the opposite. I'm the outdoor type, I wanna try and have some sort of activity to do every night. Lately i'm finding myself desperate to interact with people. But just like I gave up drinking and smoking, i'll probably give up websites. I have got some good friends on here, but don't need to log into WP to speak with them.



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13 Jan 2008, 12:47 pm

That's good that you are fighting your depression this way! Good luck in everything. Playing sports sounds like fun. :D



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13 Jan 2008, 7:11 pm

Thanks Merr, bset of luck to you too. Yeah you should play some if you get a chance :)



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13 Jan 2008, 7:26 pm

Yes, but I have no other forums to go on.



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14 Jan 2008, 3:10 am

I can't stop, because who the hell else thinks the way I do?



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14 Jan 2008, 6:43 am

I have almost doubled my post count this past week because this is the first time my back has gone out on me since I got a computer. I can't even go to the library to pick up anything. I got a box of 150 vintage Hulk comics I'm afraid will turn my brains to jello.

I dont have televison and don't collect videos.

I've been meaning to dust off my Gamecube but I just can't get around to it. Thats what I entertained myself with the last time I was down.

I should be writing or reading my studies but the computer is addictive. I've only had one six months.

What am I supposed to do? Ihave an addictive personality. Thatys why I have trouble collecting things and eating whole boxes of cookies in a single sitting.

I'm less depressed lately ( before the back again) and it scares me thats it's entirely due to a pill. I've been on meds a while but I have never been so depressed as this last summer and never seen such an immediate upswing after pills. I even achived some social goals that I wouldn't have imagined possible before.

Some of you may take the computer for granted because you have had one for a while but every answer I could possible ask is in here somewhere. Thats so staggering so amazing. I can't believe what I've learned.

I'm overwhelmed.
And once I get on the computer I wont get off. I feel like I've swapped one bad behavior for another.

Maybe the novelty will wear off.
I used to hate computers. I called them the little devil box, (big one being TV).

I also tell people I don't like sweets, the truth is I lose control.



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14 Jan 2008, 11:49 am

TrueDave wrote:
I have almost doubled my post count this past week because this is the first time my back has gone out on me since I got a computer. I can't even go to the library to pick up anything. I got a box of 150 vintage Hulk comics I'm afraid will turn my brains to jello.

I dont have televison and don't collect videos.

I've been meaning to dust off my Gamecube but I just can't get around to it. Thats what I entertained myself with the last time I was down.

I should be writing or reading my studies but the computer is addictive. I've only had one six months.

What am I supposed to do? Ihave an addictive personality. Thatys why I have trouble collecting things and eating whole boxes of cookies in a single sitting.

I'm less depressed lately ( before the back again) and it scares me thats it's entirely due to a pill. I've been on meds a while but I have never been so depressed as this last summer and never seen such an immediate upswing after pills. I even achived some social goals that I wouldn't have imagined possible before.

Some of you may take the computer for granted because you have had one for a while but every answer I could possible ask is in here somewhere. Thats so staggering so amazing. I can't believe what I've learned.

I'm overwhelmed.
And once I get on the computer I wont get off. I feel like I've swapped one bad behavior for another.

Maybe the novelty will wear off.
I used to hate computers. I called them the little devil box, (big one being TV).

I also tell people I don't like sweets, the truth is I lose control.


I know where you're coming from. Is there any activities you can start that involves going out?



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14 Jan 2008, 2:29 pm

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I can understand that. I have definitely noticed some people don't like their ideas challenged, and don't want to seem to make any progress to get better. I find that regrettable, but what can you do?

I don't really expect to make any friends here, though it would be nice. I am really being myself here, and being myself rarely makes me any friends. Which I suppose is why I need to be here at all.

I consider this place more of a place to put my thoughts into words and hope that they might help somebody, or something someone else wrote may help me.


You've just summed up exactly how I feel at this point in time. It is very difficult to engage with anbody, let alone other aspies when you have things that you believe in very strongly. So much of life tends to be lived 'on the surface' :( - (and this is not the kind of life I want to lead), When you penetrate this surface, you unfortunately run the risk of inadvertently upsetting some people. I believe that it is a risk worth taking, time and time again if your motives for saying what you do come from genuine attempts to reach out, debate, understand and help others.

I always try to give reasons for my remarks on different matters (and yes, I sometimes get angry) but I try hard to stop myself from making personal attacks. Just because you disagree with someone (heatedly, at times) does not nesscesarily mean that you dislike that person. Just that you maybe dislike a certain philosophy.

Unfortunately, many people have problems seperating certain ideologies they subscribe to from themselves as people. So when you bring into question things that they hold dear, these people take it as an attack on their person and decline to respond to any further questions.

It can be dangerous to zealously stick to a certain worldview. I think that it's vital to actually have a point of view but what i'm trying to get at is the notion of being agnostic in my attitude to reality as a whole. To maintain a rigid stance in the face of reason or valid questions destroys debate and any hopes of understanding. We all have our various assumptions challenged on a daily basis (and it's sometimes painful) but I think it is very important.

I really value your post kitschinator. It has made me feel a bit less alone :) , as i've been getting a bit down with how things have been going for me round here recently.

I would be happy to be your friend!


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14 Jan 2008, 4:04 pm

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kitschinator wrote:
I can understand that. I have definitely noticed some people don't like their ideas challenged, and don't want to seem to make any progress to get better. I find that regrettable, but what can you do?

I don't really expect to make any friends here, though it would be nice. I am really being myself here, and being myself rarely makes me any friends. Which I suppose is why I need to be here at all.

I consider this place more of a place to put my thoughts into words and hope that they might help somebody, or something someone else wrote may help me.


You've just summed up exactly how I feel at this point in time. It is very difficult to engage with anbody, let alone other aspies when you have things that you believe in very strongly. So much of life tends to be lived 'on the surface' :( - (and this is not the kind of life I want to lead), When you penetrate this surface, you unfortunately run the risk of inadvertently upsetting some people. I believe that it is a risk worth taking, time and time again if your motives for saying what you do come from genuine attempts to reach out, debate, understand and help others.

I always try to give reasons for my remarks on different matters (and yes, I sometimes get angry) but I try hard to stop myself from making personal attacks. Just because you disagree with someone (heatedly, at times) does not nesscesarily mean that you dislike that person. Just that you maybe dislike a certain philosophy.

Unfortunately, many people have problems seperating certain ideologies they subscribe to from themselves as people. So when you bring into question things that they hold dear, these people take it as an attack on their person and decline to respond to any further questions.

It can be dangerous to zealously stick to a certain worldview. I think that it's vital to actually have a point of view but what i'm trying to get at is the notion of being agnostic in my attitude to reality as a whole. To maintain a rigid stance in the face of reason or valid questions destroys debate and any hopes of understanding. We all have our various assumptions challenged on a daily basis (and it's sometimes painful) but I think it is very important.

I really value your post kitschinator. It has made me feel a bit less alone :) , as i've been getting a bit down with how things have been going for me round here recently.

I would be happy to be your friend!


Yeah, we do have a lot in common when it comes to worldview. My only really unbendable ideology in life is to question everything. I guess I'm also agnostic towards everything.

It's hard for me to turn that part of me off and "live on the surface", as you put it so well. Living on the surface is way too sanitized for me. I really feel like I live most of my life inside my head because I get to truly "be myself" so little in my daily life.

I have sent you a PM if you'd like to write back and forth or chat sometime. :D



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14 Jan 2008, 5:44 pm

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It's hard for me to turn that part of me off and "live on the surface", as you put it so well. Living on the surface is way too sanitized for me. I really feel like I live most of my life inside my head because I get to truly "be myself" so little in my daily life.


You have nearly quoted me verbatim, when I was seeking a diagnoses early on. My counselor had asked me why certain things aggravated me so; random strangers greeting me and seeking conversation, or people who love to honk their car horn and expect me to respond when they have scared the daylights out of me, etc. It is so true. I cannot truly be myself unless it's in my head.


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14 Jan 2008, 7:44 pm

yeah, I am pretty sick of WP
no one really gives a flying f**k about me :roll:



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14 Jan 2008, 7:55 pm

Kilroy wrote:
yeah, I am pretty sick of WP
no one really gives a flying f**k about me :roll:


I think you're a laugh Kilroy and you like good music :)



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14 Jan 2008, 7:58 pm

you'd be surprised how little my music actually means to me