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14 Aug 2009, 4:24 pm
NomadicAssassin wrote:
I'm 15 years old, will be a junior this year, currently homebound, and just coming out of severe depression to reagular depression small to no difference 
, but my parents like to throw chocies and ultimatums at me even though I have had nemerous talks, fights, and arguments with them about, not to mention my dad got into a huge fight with me and my mom and almost walked out on us( it was scary), so back to the point my mom was talking about how life is unpredictable and what not and my dad mentioned in a previous fight that I was to be kicked out of the house at 20 something or 30 something; which I agree with, but the stipulation was if I stayed in my current position; let me fill you in ( Current Situation : I get up, have to be reminded to take shower, sit around a little bit maybe do the Wii Baord, eat lunch ( I am over weight, I stand at 5Ft 11, weighing in at 255, but I'm a braid shouldered man with a good amount of muslce), try to find something to do if I can't and panic I cry for about 15 min, the dinner, then sleep)). That is my daily activity everyday, it's boring out of my mind and needs more activity, I have no job I'm sh** scared( almost a phobia of it) no lisence and no life pretty much; I don't think I'm going to be able to get a job , and that means my parents are going to kick me out, in quote " if you keep going down this path you'll be a hobo" says my dad, holy f**king S**t am I terrified, I have a fear of my person health it one thing I got from my AS disorder, so I nearly crapper my pants when I heard that; Now I get good grades when Im in school, but i don't know what to do, my parents care for me alot and bend over backwards for me at times but they are scaring the $#!& out of me all the time constantly, but they won't listen when I try to explain this to them, so I don't know what to do I have asperger's but I think I have another problem with me because I seem to have problem functioning sometimes, pls someone tell me how to handle life I'm scared, alot of things are crumbling around me and I'm falling fast, for the love of all that is holy and right pls don't let me become homless freak hobo man, if you could tell me tips strategies or helpful technique it would be much appriciated!
, but my parents like to throw chocies and ultimatums at me even though I have had nemerous talks, fights, and arguments with them about, not to mention my dad got into a huge fight with me and my mom and almost walked out on us( it was scary), so back to the point my mom was talking about how life is unpredictable and what not and my dad mentioned in a previous fight that I was to be kicked out of the house at 20 something or 30 something; which I agree with, but the stipulation was if I stayed in my current position; let me fill you in ( Current Situation : I get up, have to be reminded to take shower, sit around a little bit maybe do the Wii Baord, eat lunch ( I am over weight, I stand at 5Ft 11, weighing in at 255, but I'm a braid shouldered man with a good amount of muslce), try to find something to do if I can't and panic I cry for about 15 min, the dinner, then sleep)). That is my daily activity everyday, it's boring out of my mind and needs more activity, I have no job I'm sh** scared( almost a phobia of it) no lisence and no life pretty much; I don't think I'm going to be able to get a job , and that means my parents are going to kick me out, in quote " if you keep going down this path you'll be a hobo" says my dad, holy f**king S**t am I terrified, I have a fear of my person health it one thing I got from my AS disorder, so I nearly crapper my pants when I heard that; Now I get good grades when Im in school, but i don't know what to do, my parents care for me alot and bend over backwards for me at times but they are scaring the $#!& out of me all the time constantly, but they won't listen when I try to explain this to them, so I don't know what to do I have asperger's but I think I have another problem with me because I seem to have problem functioning sometimes, pls someone tell me how to handle life I'm scared, alot of things are crumbling around me and I'm falling fast, for the love of all that is holy and right pls don't let me become homless freak hobo man, if you could tell me tips strategies or helpful technique it would be much appriciated!You might want to take a look at this, and show it to your parents. http://www.autismsociety-nc.org/index.p ... Itemid=339
I don't know if you have an IEP at school, but it sounds like you ought to be eligible, even if you get good grades. If you are not in the special education system at school, you should request "An evaluation to determine eligibility for special education in accordance with the IDEA (federal law)." Just so you understand, "special education" simply means that you get a specialized education plan that is tailored to whatever your individual needs are. So, for instance, you might be really intelligent, but you have trouble getting your assignments written down properly, and miss stuff. You'd get special help for that. Or, maybe you do fine in school once you're there, but you get harassed by your peers because you keep putting your shirt on backwards or forgetting to rinse the shampoo out of your hair; that's not exactly school stuff per se, but it indirectly affects your education, and an IEP team (made up of you, your parents, teachers, aspergers specialist, etc) can work out ways to help you with that kind of stuff.
http://www.autismsociety-nc.org/index.p ... Itemid=339
Of course, with budget cuts, schools often find it easier and cheaper to just write you off as being a lazy kid who doesn't apply himself. In fact, to someone who doesn't understand AS and these "hidden" disabilities, like executive functioning problems, it really does look like laziness. Especially if they see that you are capable of getting good grades. In a perfect world, all parents and all teachers would have a clear understanding these things. Some of them seem completely unable to ever get it, but most will eventually.
It's important to know your rights, and what is available to you, so I hope that website helps. Here is another which I know has a lot of good stuff. Between you and your parents (and any other adult who cares for you), there's a lot of good information here that you need, but it's kind of hard to navigate. I don't mean the website, I mean the stuff than needs to be done, and for someone with the problems you describe, it'll be tougher. This website provides some good tips and advice, though.
http://www.wrightslaw.com/
Good luck.
14 Aug 2009, 4:46 pm
15 Aug 2009, 5:54 am
NomadicAssassin wrote:
Well i am trying to secretly talk to my grandparents about this, but as a new rule my parents will not let me talk to my granpanrents about this, i think it was they would take the phone away from me and if i tried harder something else probably worse, my Pshyc is really not helping to much im seeing him to day to mention the verbal abuse but i dont think he will do anything he hasent for the past two month of seeing him 8 to 9 time for an hour each. I'm trying to think of a solution but its getting very tight, and i can't move to much, I expressed everything to my grandparents, but they are in the middle of moving from CA to SC, and California is cutting there budgit short so they can do only so much.
Use the old fashioned letters. It's slower but you can write them anywhere and mail them without your parents will ever know from where.
And tell your grandparents to keep quiet about it.
Quote:
We are your parents we handle your problems, not your grandparents, you can hate us all you want, but until you turn 18 your stuck with us.
You might want to tell them that you don't hate them, but that their problem handeling skills is quite uselsess. Besides, your problems are none of your parents consern unless you want it to be, you have the right to talk to anyone you like.
15 Aug 2009, 10:43 am
17 Aug 2009, 12:39 pm
I'm not sure how to help, Nomad. I'm someone on the internet. All I can say is keep talking to any adult you can trust, like your g-parents, your psych, your teacher etc and someone will probably listen.
Good luck 
19 Aug 2009, 10:17 am
NomadicAssassin wrote:
My grandma just left to go back home today, she was visiting for 10 days and it was great but, now she's gone and I feel alone and scared, how do I get rid of this feeling?
The universal advice I can give you is to learn about the things you are afraid of. When they stop being unknown and strange fear usually gives in.
25 Aug 2009, 2:58 pm
25 Aug 2009, 4:24 pm
NomadicAssassin wrote:
I'm 15 years old, will be a junior this year, currently homebound, and just coming out of severe depression to reagular depression small to no difference , but my parents like to throw chocies and ultimatums at me even though I have had nemerous talks, fights, and arguments with them about, not to mention my dad got into a huge fight with me and my mom and almost walked out on us( it was scary), so back to the point my mom was talking about how life is unpredictable and what not and my dad mentioned in a previous fight that I was to be kicked out of the house at 20 something or 30 something; which I agree with, but the stipulation was if I stayed in my current position; let me fill you in ( Current Situation : I get up, have to be reminded to take shower, sit around a little bit maybe do the Wii Baord, eat lunch ( I am over weight, I stand at 5Ft 11, weighing in at 255, but I'm a braid shouldered man with a good amount of muslce), try to find something to do if I can't and panic I cry for about 15 min, the dinner, then sleep)). That is my daily activity everyday, it's boring out of my mind and needs more activity, I have no job I'm sh** scared( almost a phobia of it) no lisence and no life pretty much; I don't think I'm going to be able to get a job , and that means my parents are going to kick me out, in quote " if you keep going down this path you'll be a hobo" says my dad, holy f**king S**t am I terrified, I have a fear of my person health it one thing I got from my AS disorder, so I nearly crapper my pants when I heard that; Now I get good grades when Im in school, but i don't know what to do, my parents care for me alot and bend over backwards for me at times but they are scaring the $#!& out of me all the time constantly, but they won't listen when I try to explain this to them, so I don't know what to do I have asperger's but I think I have another problem with me because I seem to have problem functioning sometimes, pls someone tell me how to handle life I'm scared, alot of things are crumbling around me and I'm falling fast, for the love of all that is holy and right pls don't let me become homless freak hobo man, if you could tell me tips strategies or helpful technique it would be much appriciated!
turn that deep fear and channel it into an equally strong determination not to fail. then if you can manage it, turn that AS obssession lens of yours onto finding all about how to be successful systematically going down the list: license, job, etc. and don't be afraid to ask your parents for help in these subjects, and pointers. it shows initiative. and may get them off your back a little. because seriously, admittedly your daily schedule seems rather unproductive and you seem to spend more time just trying to keep yourself not depressed than actually taking steps to try to alleviate your core problems.
, but my parents like to throw chocies and ultimatums at me even though I have had nemerous talks, fights, and arguments with them about, not to mention my dad got into a huge fight with me and my mom and almost walked out on us( it was scary), so back to the point my mom was talking about how life is unpredictable and what not and my dad mentioned in a previous fight that I was to be kicked out of the house at 20 something or 30 something; which I agree with, but the stipulation was if I stayed in my current position; let me fill you in ( Current Situation : I get up, have to be reminded to take shower, sit around a little bit maybe do the Wii Baord, eat lunch ( I am over weight, I stand at 5Ft 11, weighing in at 255, but I'm a braid shouldered man with a good amount of muslce), try to find something to do if I can't and panic I cry for about 15 min, the dinner, then sleep)). That is my daily activity everyday, it's boring out of my mind and needs more activity, I have no job I'm sh** scared( almost a phobia of it) no lisence and no life pretty much; I don't think I'm going to be able to get a job , and that means my parents are going to kick me out, in quote " if you keep going down this path you'll be a hobo" says my dad, holy f**king S**t am I terrified, I have a fear of my person health it one thing I got from my AS disorder, so I nearly crapper my pants when I heard that; Now I get good grades when Im in school, but i don't know what to do, my parents care for me alot and bend over backwards for me at times but they are scaring the $#!& out of me all the time constantly, but they won't listen when I try to explain this to them, so I don't know what to do I have asperger's but I think I have another problem with me because I seem to have problem functioning sometimes, pls someone tell me how to handle life I'm scared, alot of things are crumbling around me and I'm falling fast, for the love of all that is holy and right pls don't let me become homless freak hobo man, if you could tell me tips strategies or helpful technique it would be much appriciated!it can be intimidating, but it is for sure possible. if you find yourself doubting then remember that it is only your doubt that holds you back, don't give in to that doubt, but shove it harshly and indignantly aside and press onward and keep your goals in clear sight. there's confidence to be found in endurance. and even that that little spark can become a raging fire, given the proper fuel.
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