My life is over

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OP: perhaps consider joining a Meet-Up group for people with social anxiety and other neurodiverse people. They exist, and I met some terrific people there - sensitive, insightful, warm hearted, inclusive and just plain lovely souls who also faced the problems of being an introvert in an extroverted-valuing society. I have some some lovely friendships with group members who have beautiful qualities and lovely natures. They are a blessing in my life. Some romances developed, though that isn't what people went there to find (I think). They wanted a social haven context where they could meet people who also understood what it was like to like as a neuroatypical. I have seen people arrive lacking confidence and all of that and watched them bloom like beautiful flowers - and in some cases, find meaningful loving relationships of a romantic nature.

I agree with the above, sir.

You're still young

Get that ideology out of your head that you'll never find love.

I'm 30 years older than you.

You're still young.

My feeling: get out of your own way, and you'll be fine.

Don't go to a sex worker.

Always be clean in clothes and body. Always keep a good posture.

Your life isn't over. There is always hope.

You are right, it IS difficult for us, aspies. But it doesn't mean you should give up hope. I didn't have a relationship until recently, and I'm 25 and half. I think we are a minority, this is why it is so difficult for us to find a match. I am very lucky I did (or rather that my match found me), and I thank God for that. But I have felt the same way as you. I wanted to give up. No... I actually gave up! I thought there was no hope for me, so I stopped trying to get a date. I registered on this forum as a last resort to find some help with my issues. I wanted to be "normal". Then I found my love here (goofygoobers) out of a miracle, who likes me as I am, with all my weirdness, and I'm forever grateful.

I'd like to suggest two things. First, don't give up hope. Aspies have a hard time finding their mates, but this doesn't mean they don't. Second, use your time wisely. You are alone, but you probably won't be alone forever. Do something you like doing while you are out there searching. Get a cool hobby for example. It won't just be for your own enjoyment, but it will make you more attractive for women. Trust me on that.

I try not to give up, but I have passion in romance and love. I value relationships as partnership, where that I spend time together for anything working as a team.

I thought women like partnership-relationship values, which is unlike silly alcoholic druggos lazy like relationships in reality.

It seems that people here at uni don't look for anyone these days. Unlike I was at UG uni in 2010-12, the people over there looks instead not looking. Society has changed right?

I still think you'll find a girlfriend soon. I can sense it.

Obviously, I don't know you LOL

I dunno....I can just sense it.

Everyday, I spend some time sitting and watching the birds who visit my sundeck. It is Winter still, and food is scarce; the Southerly winds coming up from the South Pole are cold; they live for the day, without certainty of where their next meal is to be found. They search hopefully; they never doubt their ability to fly. They group together, peaceably, alert, hopeful, observant, knowing they are both individuals and part of their species, and their own personal tribe. They flutter with joy around food I put out for them. Then they soar into the sky and land gracefully on branches high up in trees at heights which would scare the bejesus out of me, and sit there for hours, like philosopher kings, considering the world they see.

It will be evident then, that I see birds as a symbol of hope, a symbol that is always accessible and which never fails to re-inspire me. Spread your own wings.