It gets confusing, when most people...

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... have an easier time dealing with and adapting to change, and understanding the way the world gives as it takes, and deal with the harsh blows so much easier than I do.
I'm still somewhat upset by not being with my ex girlfriend.
I get confused because as far as I can tell, I'm philosophically clever, musically talented, and a well balanced character, but I still have a hard time understanding what the heck is going on half the time.

^^ Yaye greetings samtoo. Oh dear, I am very sorry that you are not feeling very happy *Blesses with pixie dust*.

^^ I do not believe that you require to understand all matters samtoo. I believe that managing scary matters is very difficult, and if you have difficulty doing so, then this does not matter if another human would not have such difficulty. After all, since I believe that each individual is unique, then every experience that one has is unique compared with the experiences of others. I believe that although a event may seem externally similar to an observer, the event may be extremely different dependent on who the event on occurring to.

I believe that all experiences that all living beings have are essentially imaginary, and therefore there is no set definition to how an experience shall seem to an individual.

I believe that this is also very similar for society. I believe that society is not an entity. Society is merely a system in which individuals engage in as it provides benefits to them. Beyond this, I feel that there exists only individuals. What your girlfriend did is perhaps not part of a written rule. Those are the actions that she has taken and to fully understand them, you would need to be her.

I believe that you do not need to understand then intentions of others, yet understand that they do things for reasons as strong as those reasons that cause you to do things.

^^ I am very sorry if I have been horrible samtoo and written a large amount. I do hope that this is of help for you.

Thank you Tomasu. I also am an advocate for believing that society does not need to keep people on a mental railway of believing everything has to be one set way.

You are right, and no you are not being horrible whatsoever. What you type makes a lot of sense - I tend to think everything revolves around my emotional needs, but of course - it doesn't. I am one humble civilian amongst billions of others.

There is a fine line between loving myself, and becoming very self centered to the extent of becoming ignorant to other people's emotions.

I believe in your analogy, Tomasu. I think that I will feel much better if I don't think everything revolves around my emotions all the time.

A fine day to you, Tomasu.

^^ Oh dear samtoo, I do not believe that you self-centered and ignorant of emotions.

Oh dear, I apologise if I was very horrible to you. I believe I was attempting to state that you need not worry that you do not understand the potential rules of society as there are no rules. I wished not to imply that everything does not revolve around yourself, but that everything does not revolve around society. That is, for instance, there is no set level of tolerance that is deemed to be acceptable in the nature of the Universe. Certain humans may have an idea of this, but their level of tolerance is different to your own as you are different individuals. (Indeed even if externally you would seem to experiencing the same event - because you are different, this event is different to each of you. For instance, suppose you are standing next to a human at a train station and you are waiting for the same train. The train is late. The human next to you seems very happy and not worried by this delay, but you are panicking about this as you have a very important meeting that you will be late for and could not have a job because of this.

However, we could then consider "what if the man also was late an important meeting and did not panic?". But, I am attempting to state that although one situation may appear to same, externally, for two individuals, there is always a little something extra behind them that can cause them to react differently. This extra something could even be pathological something else. The main point is that no two individuals are the same and react the same.)

^^ I am very sorry as I am very confusing.

No no you have done nothing wrong Tomasu.
My responses about myself are based on how I have felt about myself in recent times, and not in anything you typed, and I wasn't at all offended - I agree with your points.

As for my ex girlfriend I have to accept her decision, and the emotions aren't so overwhelming now that I will be too hurt.

I don't know where to go though, because truth be told - I'm still waiting to be with her again.

at the point where i become confused, i withdraw my attention from the matter and allocate it elsewhere.

I have no real advice for you, none that hasn't been stated. I just wanted to contribute, I never have been one for change. When I changed to a different middle school instead of staying with my friends, I had absolutely no one to talk to. My social skills were very "off" for my age, and with no friends I was just written off as the weird kid.

Until, I had to completely change who I thought I was, until I couldn't recognize my personality. Now that I look back I am ashamed I ever changed for anybody because none of them stuck around. And to this day I really have no idea who I am. I question myself, and I become reclused more and more each time I do so.

My motives are sometimes unclear, I don't trust myself or my emotions as much as I'd like to. I am constantly questioning why did I do this or that, but never get an answer. If someone were to ask me why I am angry I usually don't have an acceptable response.

I am always confused yet, I never get bogged down by it. The world may change but I always know what will make me happy. I know my goals won't change but how I get there might, and at the end of the day I am only happy with my own choices, not being put in someone elses idea of happiness but my very own.