I can't feel what I enjoy.

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In the past I have occasionaly found something I really like or am intrested in.....and I will get quite passionate about it. But lately things I enjoy do not cause any feelings. Like I know I like Heavy Metal music but I don't feel anything towards it....and I used to and this is how it is with just about everything I enjoy.

I know in my mind that I enjoy things but I don't have the feelings that should be associated with it anymore...that's not good I don't think.

same feeling (or lack thereof) here. we are the same age also.. this seems to be a time when novelty wears off and the routine search for happiness begins to seem a never ending doldrum.

the only advice I have gotten about this is to 'fake it til you make it.' seems redundant or too vague but then again, vague concerns like apathy draw vague advice.. saying this, someone is doing their best to help without being too overbearing or condescending. I remind myself often that people can help but no one can fix this for me.. people are full of things they tell themselves (I often am asking for help without directly asking / people can sense problems in me and do their best to guide me in the ways they know how) and it is helpful to hear this stuff.. ultimately though you are your own guide here.

the best I can do is tell you to seek more than just enjoyment.. I have always been simultaneously intellectually curious and terrified.. seeking out philosophical tenets and timeless wisdom can be a relief to apathy. this is at least the only place I have found real fulfillment, is in attempting to starve my constant need for entertainment. activating the higher brain sort of thing. you probably already know this.

sorry I'm not more helpful

dead but not dead.. undead? you must be of zombie variety.. go eat some old dead brains!! I am climbing to the top of the tallest tower and hiding my slide rule and protractor.. No brains here!! Gahhhh!!

Try doing something else? Likes and interests change with time, maybe exploring something new will help you find something you enjoy doing. plus, it just might help you find that enjoyment you used to feel about other things.

for example, I used to only listen to symphonic death metal, but I got bored with it and stopped enjoying listening to it. so, I started exploring other types of music and found I really dig medieval folk and hip-hop, and after not listening to metal for a while I "rediscovered" it, so now I enjoy it again, as well as some other genres.

Just a thought.

Also, if you really are a zombie I'll be headed to your house with a chainsaw, nothing personal, but we have to stop the infection before it spreads, I'm sure you understand.

I often feel like I can't enjoy my hobbies and other activities. Every time I go to my local anime club, it feels like I can't just sit down and watch the anime. I feel restless and start walking around looking at what everyone else is doing. It just feels to me like I am not going to the club to watch anime, but to escape going home for a couple more hours. Which is a shame, because I love to just sit and enjoy watching a show, anime or not. I lose track of the dialogue (especially if it is in Japanese), and just sit there like a zombie. My family is the cause of my emotional unease and restlessness. If I can get away from them, maybe I can find myself easier and not be adrift in the sea of confused identity. I wish I could escape this family madness and find real recovery from my severe depression. It's just gotten a lot worse since my sister had her baby. Now I dread going home. It's weird to say but I perversely enjoy being at college most of the time.

Heaven for me is escaping from the world and being able to dream the dreams of science fiction.