family emergency - my grandfather is dying

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nana80
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02 Dec 2011, 5:52 pm

My grandfather is dying. We expect him not to live through the weekend. I live with my mother and my grandfather in the same house but in different appartents. My mother wants support and comfort from me now. I tried to explain her that I can give only practical help and asked her to call a good friend or her sister for comfort. She said she would do that. But she asked me the same questions over an over again (how much fluids should we give him and such) and she stayed 3/4 hour. usually she never stays more then 15 minutes.

After that I feld totaly spend. Tomorrow my aunt is comming from south Germany and will stay in my one-room aparment. So she will mess up what little is left of my schedule and routines.

The next few days (or weeks) will be very hard. Cyber-Hugs are welcome (no sensory issues weith thise :roll: )

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02 Dec 2011, 5:59 pm

I'm sorry. Here's a cyber-hug.

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02 Dec 2011, 6:21 pm

With your mom asking the same question over and over again, that might be how she handles stress and/or she might be aspie. It is still energy draining for you.

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02 Dec 2011, 6:24 pm

I'm also sorry to hear that. Cyber Sweet Pea hugs.

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02 Dec 2011, 9:55 pm

nana80 wrote:

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I think it is actually practical help that your mother needs. She likely needs someone right now who can think clearly, and it sounds like you might be that person. Helping her attend to the practical things might actually put her at ease.

You should ask her if there is anything she needs you to do as far as chores, errands, scheduling, or attending to your grandfather.

Is a hospice working with the family?

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02 Dec 2011, 10:15 pm

Please add me to the cyber-hug count.

I'm sorry to hear that.

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03 Dec 2011, 12:27 am

(((hugs))) so sorry to hear of both your grandfather and your schedule being messed up. i find disruptions hard to deal with too.

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03 Dec 2011, 5:53 am

Cyber hugs from me, too. Sorry to hear the sad news.

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03 Dec 2011, 4:35 pm

thank you all

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03 Dec 2011, 7:44 pm

{{Cyber-Hugs}}

I hope you're doing all right.

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